More than 25 years ago, my stepfather, Doc, saw me give a homeless man $20 and he asked me why I did it. The question took me by surprise, partly because I had never thought about the “why.”
After a few moments, I told him “because it makes me feel good.”
My dream job is to be a philanthropist, which I plan to make into a full-time job when I win the lottery (I already have a plan on how to give away millions).
In the meantime, I consider myself a mini-philanthropist with big dreams.
My fabulous men, feel free to read this, but know that this message is intended for the ladies.
As part of The Love Codes online course I am currently teaching with the fabulous Claire Zammit, I’ve been reading a lot of online profiles from our students. And I continuously see a pattern that got me thinking about the vast differences between the way men and women think and process love.
Manifesting our heart’s desire doesn’t always happen instantly, magically, or effortlessly.
It rarely happens that way.
It can often be a long, circuitous route.
In fact, it’s normal, to sometimes get to the point where you say to yourself:
“It’s just too hard.”
“It isn’t meant to be.”
Blah. Blah. Blah.
And, then, it’s up to YOU to re-ignite your passion and persistence, to take daily steps to make your dreams come true.
One of the biggest AHA moments of my life was when I discovered that I wasn’t crazy…. I found out that being super sensitive to loud noises and bright lights (and more) is actually a condition with a name – it’s called being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).
What a relief it was to discover not only a name for my peculiar reactions to life, but that there are also solutions. (Some are below!)
About 20% of the population is born with heightened sensitivities. One definition of HSP is described as having hypersensitivity to external stimuli, a greater depth of cognitive processing, and high emotional reactivity.
How do you know if you are an HSP?
A big part of having success with the Law of Attraction is understanding that “thoughts are things” and that our feelings, thoughts, and beliefs help to co-create our reality. Other factors that also influence our lives include karma, divine timing, destiny, free will, and that omnipresent reality of “shit happens.”
When something really bad happens to someone – let’s say a serious diagnosis, losing a job, a big car crash, and then a supposedly well-meaning “spiritual friend” asks them, ” What thoughts were you having that would cause this?”…well, this scenario just makes me crazy.
We would never ask an abused toddler, “Hey kid, what thoughts did you have that created these beatings?”
There once was a woman who saw on TV that her neighborhood was about to be flooded and the officials said everyone should evacuate.
She believed that God would save her and she ignored the warning.
Then a city worker knocked on her door and told her to leave for higher ground and she said no, “God will save me.”
Then the floods came and she had to run up to the second floor to stay dry.
A boat soon came to her second-story window to rescue her and she said no, “God will save me.”
Then the second floor flooded and she ended up on the roof of her home.
A helicopter came and she said no, “God will save me.”
Then she was swept away by the rising water and drowned.
When she got to heaven she yelled at God and said, “Why didn’t you save me?”
God said, “I sent you a warning on TV, a warning to your front door, a rescue boat, and a helicopter, why didn’t you listen?”
Bill Cosby, Roger Ailes, Harvey Weinstein, Bill O’Reilly… just a few of the high profile sexual predators who were finally exposed.
Not one of them has really, truly apologized for their horrible behavior and the pain and suffering they have caused.
Weinstein blamed it on the “culture of his time.” As someone who came of age in this culture, there were many times when my “bosses” came on to me sexually in the workplace.
The first time it happened, I was just out of college, working as a photojournalist for a weekly entertainment paper in Fort Lauderdale. One day, the boss (whose name I have now forgotten, but I do recall he had a huge beer belly and wore white patent leather shoes) walked into my darkroom which was dimly illuminated by a red safelight. With a sickening sneer on his face, and while grabbing himself, he asked: “Would you like some of this?” I put my hands in the developer pan and told him he if he took one more step I would throw the acid-based chemicals in his face, which sent him running. (I have no idea if this would have done any damage to him or not). It never occurred to me to quit this job that I loved and there was no one to tell. It was a small staff, run by his much younger wife.
I thought I handled it pretty well considering….
I don’t know about you, but lately, it seems that everyone I know is totally stressed out, not just from their own lives, but from the “frequency in the field” – hurricane disasters, political nightmares, money worries, illness, etc.
Even if you are safe, dry, and your life is peachy right now, chances are you are picking up on the energies of those around you.
It’s almost unavoidable.
This is why I’m such a big advocate for all of us to become daily “pleasure puppies” and find ways each day to consciously choose to reduce our stress levels and add more pleasure.
This past weekend I was honored to officiate my first wedding…my beautiful niece Rachel and her soulmate Jason.
It was an inspiring, beautiful, and fun event with more than 250 friends and family gathered in the French Quarter of New Orleans to celebrate and bless the love they share.
One of things I became very aware of over the weekend was the palpable and constant waves of happiness.
The core basis of my belief and understanding about manifestation (whether you are manifesting love, a car, a new career, or a new little black dress) is this:
There is no “time.” The past, present, and future all happen simultaneously.
When we have a desire for something, it’s because some part of us “already knows that this is possible for us,” on an unseen level.
Your dream is not some random thing out there somewhere; it is already in existence, calling upon you to dream it into your existence.
To do this, we must be willing to own and embrace the dream or desire and then take the necessary, appropriate action steps to bring it into 3-D reality.
I was blessed to learn about the powers and magic of manifesting on September 12, 1984. My life changed that day and since then I have devoted my life to mastering the art and science of what we now call The Law of Attraction.
Every time I manifest something (which is usually at least once a day) I am still delighted and surprised that it worked!
Sometimes my desires are met in mere minutes, other times it can take weeks or even months, but eventually, always, my desires are almost always met with what I asked for, or I get something better.
It’s hard to imagine a world without Louise Hay in it…she transitioned last week on August 30th – exactly two years after her longtime friend Wayne Dyer passed.
For decades, I have admired Louise and looked up to her as my icon for spiritual growth, and aging gracefully and powerfully.
I loved her fierce courageousness, her willingness to do and say the right thing with the causes that called to her, and her brilliance, personal style and joie de vivre always inspired me.
I am not sure if it’s the eclipse energy from last week, or the constantly bad news on TV, or Mercury Retrograde, or what, but I have been feeling a bit cranky lately.
So, I have been digging deep into my spiritual tool-kit.
This morning, I added extra lavender to my bath, while doing rounds of EFT tapping on “I’m cranky and I totally and completely love myself.”
On the way to the grocery store, I listened to one of my favorite spiritual teachers, which was uplifting, and I spent a long time cuddling on the back deck with my cat Max.
My deepest knowing is this: There is MORE than enough love in the world for everyone, especially YOU!
Regardless of your age, weight, circumstances, history or location, I know that if you have the desire for heart opening, mind-blowing, soul-stirring love, then it is meant to be yours.
Ready to feel better and heal faster? Many scientific studies, including research by renowned psychologists Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough, have found that people who consciously focus on gratitude experience greater emotional well-being and physical health than those who don’t.
Are you having enough fun? We are midway through summer and before it slips by completely, I want to encourage you to consciously choose to have as much fun as possible. And, ladies, this means choosing pleasurable activities that will not only be fun, but also rebuild your oxytocin levels and reduce stress. And guys, this means choosing some testosterone building things (playing sports, watching sports, working out, having beers with your buddies) that will help you reduce your stress levels.
Seventeen years ago, Rebekah Eden had finally had enough of romantic relationships. She was sick and tired of disappointment, heartache and betrayal, not to mention the sense that she was constantly losing herself and her larger mission along the way.
The other day I had the chance to meet up with the amazing, incredible, super smart Mike Dooley(from The Secret and Notes from the Universe), and we had a blast comparing notes about all the things we have in common, from the college we both went to, the books we have read, the music that rocks our world, and our “knowing” that the Universe always has our back….