It is absolutely true that there are certain types of people who are toxic to your quality of life.

They may have abusive tendencies, dark cynical outlooks or they could be self-destructive.

Our minds are always trying to judge, and our hearts discern whether or not certain people are good for us.

The residual trauma of being abused or mistreated by another creates the need to strictly enforce the condemning of unhealthy people in our lives. The extreme of this will cause imbalance and the accumulation of residual karma.

The act of condemning a person even for a good reason, is a fear based egoic mechanism that reinforces fear and anger. A person will feel constantly on edge or anxious during that time of judgment.

One of the major human lessons today is learning to take our power back and reposition ourselves above the bullying and abuse that exists in the world.

Bullies and psychopaths are not just in the movies, they are real personality types. Manipulation and control are as addictive as heroin to these people. While they make horrible spouses and BFF’s, they are amazing spiritual teachers!

If a person has low self-worth or is lacking in self-respect they will attract these types of people and will probably get into a close relationship with them. They will keep these people close until they have learned the lessons they need to be more self-loving and self-respecting.

In my line of work the topic of “what if” comes up often in regards to past loves and the possibility of what could have been.

In this instance a person will glorify the positive attributes of a person they were with in the past. They also soften some of the elements that created the downfall in the relationship.

I can even relate to having instances of wondering what could have been with people I’ve never had encounters with.

I can’t help but wonder what would’ve happened to me if I had dated the nice guys in high school. I guess we’ll never know.

The sad part about this is that either situation leaves a person to feel as if they could’ve change things or done something different. That that could have saved those relationships. And In essence they would be happier today if they had done those things.

Upheaval is one of the ways in which transformation can be facilitated. As you may have noticed, there’s a lot of that going on right now in the world and in our personal lives also.

The untruths or the structures that we have in place that are not providing us with well-being or are holding us back are coming to the surface.

What this means is that if we have buttons to be pushed, someone or something will be coming along to push them. Another term for this is called being triggered. It is up to us to let the discrepancies go and allow ourselves to heal.

It’s a human tendency to blame the button pusher, saying something like; “That person really pushes my buttons!” This attitude basically justifies the buttons, or the karma, or the personal demons so that they stay intact. The period of life that were entering and now will not allow us to keep our demons. It is a new chapter of clarity in the next level of awareness where these things have no place.

Trauma is the emotional wound that certain experiences can leave behind. As many of you know the effects of trauma can linger for years after the initial experience that caused it has been over.

It leaves behind Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, along with the tendency to project the pain of the experience on to our current situations. It essentially keeps us stuck in our past in a way that is negative and unproductive.

It thwarts our personal growth and can come in the way of the healthiness in our relationships. This includes both personal or business relationships.

It creates addiction and insurmountable substance abuse. The lives that trauma has claimed are countless.

There are different levels of trauma. Some of it is so violent and devastating that there’s really no human way possible to avoid accumulating it. i.e. creating it and storing it in your body on an emotional level. It is my experience that these traumas are able to be healed. It can take years of cellular, energetic clearing, depending on the person.

Today many women feel inadequate in comparison to the beauty standards of today's society. The media bombards us with the idea that we are not enough as we are. We are not thin enough, our lashes aren't long enough and are hair is missing texture. It is suggested that signs of aging decrease our value as people, and must be compensated for by the newest wrinkle cream on the market.

I consider myself to be a conscious person. I reserve the right to have my own feelings, and thoughts about things. I don't allow the influence of propaganda to make me buy Tide detergent. I have, however, allowed my mind to believe that I am substandard, in comparison to other women in the world.

This idea or belief is constantly in the back of my mind, creating pain and diminishing the quality of my life. When I see an ad for makeup, or a high-fashion magazine spread, the first thought that floods my mind, is always the same; " I don’t look like that, and looking like that is what will make me desirable, and loved by others." In the back of my mind, I have a belief that, as long as other women look that way, I would never be anybody's first choice.

It is my personal opinion that most people are unnecessarily insecure. These insecurities can hold people back from being truly happy, and living life to the fullest. Where do these insecurities come from? How can we become more confident?

The need for the approval of others is one of our first learned behaviors. As we started life, many of us learned that we received our parents love when we did things that pleased them. We were met with negativity, or not as much love, when we did things that upset them. Our parents were the gods of our universe at that time, and their love was not only desired instinctually, but was necessary for our survival.

As we move out into the world as individuals, we still feel that the acceptance and praise of others keeps us validated, and defines us as meaningful contributors to society. So this means that a large motivator for doing anything is the expectation of positive feedback from someone else.

When we receive praise, we allow it to lift us up, and we feel good about what we have done. A negative reaction from someone, can make us feel bad, and can even make us question our validity.

Happiness and personal empowerment are only a perceptual shift away!

The reason why so many of us suffer, is because we believe that we are part of a world conceptually created by those who have come before us.

We were taught from pretty early on that we needed to fit in, or adhere to various societal standards. Everything from the way we spoke to our physical appearance needed to be a certain way to be considered ‘good’.

While there is a common thread of likeness with every human being on the planet, you are the only you there has ever been, or will ever be. You're supposed to be the way you are, and you are more than good enough. You are not going to fit into someone else's mold, and you were never meant to.

There is not a metaphysical store that is without a nice supply of stones for healing. They come in all shapes, sizes, and colors, and they all profess to do to help people with different issues.

If you’re energetically sensitive, you probably have several different mala bracelets or other types of jewelry. This is in the hopes of it helping your energetic frequency to improve or to help your life in some way. 

To the people who are more worldly grounded, this ritual seems like a hoax or something that makes no sense at all. I’m going to shed light on why this seems to be true.

I’m going to start by saying that I’m a lover of gemstones and I have several bracelets and earrings that I wear regularly. I find them really beautiful. I love them! 

The first fact is that gemstones do have a particular frequency. This frequency is usually much higher than the average human being’s frequency. They also have unique properties that could help a person rebalance or raise their frequency and possibly experience a new reality.

This monumental time in our history has caused the need for people to seek help with energetic healers to help facilitate these necessary energetic shifts.


During this time the contrast between where we were and where we’re going, there starts to be an apparent need for a deeper change. The good news is that it’s time to let go of the ego structures that no longer serve us. The bad news is that the shifts might take a little more time than we had hoped.


There are two basic reasons for this:

If you’re like me, you’re a big believer in symbols and signs. You also view signs and symbols as to how you’re being guided by spirit.

The most prominent form of spirit communication that involve symbols, are our dreams.

This is because while we are dreaming we are not actually in our physical bodies. This is the best time for spirit to communicate with us and show us things. They communicate with pictures and symbols because it’s the easiest way for them to get their messages across.

Every person has their own list of symbols and meanings. Those are symbols that are unique to them. There are also similarities in the symbols we see as a collective.

Whether you are motivated by the onset of bikini season or the calling of your next level of spiritual growth, dietary cleanses are back on the collective agenda. When the idea of a cleanse becomes attractive to you, it is time to purify. Usually this will cut out all wheat, cane sugar, alcohol and caffeine in your diet to allow your body to repair itself and heal.

 

After a couple of decades of studying nutritional and dietary wellness, I found myself at about a 70/30 percentage. 70% of eating for the nutritional benefits of my body and 30% guilty pleasures and recreational eating. I was perfectly happy with that ratio until just recently.

 

Something shifted and I felt a strong pull to revisit eating salad for dinner and moving away from the need to cook my veggies. While I’ve indulged in a little vanity in my day, this inner calling was not about the approach of bikini season. Though I do consider losing a few extra pounds a plus!

 

Many people do not realize that the fear and resistance that comes with dietary changes or starting a cleanse, is not as much about giving up the foods they love. It is the fear of re-experiencing the repressed emotional pain that remains below the surface is kept in place by the junk food we consume regularly.

For my birthday this year I was treated to breakfast at one of my favorite seaside restaurants.I find that when I’m in a birthday frame of mind, I feel that I should eat and do what I want. Even if it is outside of the list of things that keep my well being intact. So I ordered the French toast! It was freshly made using large slices of artesian bread and house made whipped cream. It was outstanding. The chemical rush of sugar overload was surging through my body and mind.

 

At about the half way point, I started to feel nauseous. So nauseous that I was afraid that one more bite would result in literally needing to vomit. I stopped eating, and the sugary euphoria started to be replaced with sluggishness and a feeling of regret that I had ordered it. The small child inside me still believes that sugar it the ultimate treat. “She” had ordered breakfast. Not the health-conscious woman seeking vitality and a clear mind. Herein lies the conflict.

 

At this stage in our lives, seeking pleasure in the very temporary euphoria of a sugar rush will derail us from all the things that are important to us. People often get depressed or sad over the idea of giving up dietary guilty pleasures for health or weight loss reasons. They feel that one of the greatest joys in life is being taken away. The second their willpower is compromised, they go in the polar opposite direction and binge on the foods that they know will hurt them. We need to redirect our focus on the pleasures that are healthy and life sustaining.

The more we believe that our frequency is responsible for our reality, the more we become afraid of the moments when we feel less than cheerful. These are usually the moments we feel we can’t afford to be down. I.e. I need to raise my frequency so I can pay my bills.

Herein lies the dilemma. When we’re experiencing an off day emotionally, we then decided it is wrong, and attempt to fight it in an effort to change it. This is really just adding fuel to the fire.

Have you ever left an inspirational seminar or a retreat only to find that the days after are emotionally heavy and maybe even depressive? This is because you had spent time in a heightened frequency and raised the bar of what you expect for yourself and your life by setting new intentions and goals. When a person does this, it creates emotional upheaval and a systematic purging of all that was holding the lesser reality in place.

I’ve referred to it in the past as a garbage day of the soul. As the limiting or negative belief structures leave a person, they will feel the lower energetic qualities of them move out of their system.

This is where we give thanks and find appreciation for the less than cheerful emotional energetic stream of energy. If we look at it this way you can see the importance of not making it a bad thing or fighting it.

The best thing to do when this happens is to practice taking a step back from them and remind yourself that although you feel this way, there are still a lot of blessings to be thankful for. Take on the role of loving parent and gently redirect your thought process back to something more rational and positive. In one moment you could feel the particular issue is just the end of the world. An hour later for no apparent reason you could feel that the same issue isn’t as bad as you thought it was when the toxicity was leaving.

If you’re experiencing this level of negativity appear over an issue, it only means that you just have not yet found the right solution.

At this point in my life I cannot imagine not working with the power of intention on a daily basis. I find it to be a phenomenal tool when it comes to getting things done. Not only do I usually experience the best possible outcome, I receive it in the best possible way.

 

I have also noticed that I am spiritually guided to set intentions when faced with new challenges. I’ll hear a sentence enter my thought process that asks, “What is your intention for ______?”. For the most part, anything that enters our minds that is outside of regular habitual thinking is the guidance of spirit. This would be the point where I stop and get clear over what I would like to see unfold. This does not mean that things go my way all the time. At the very least intention setting makes it possible for me to let go of the fear around an impending situation. I can release the contemplation out of my mind and move forward with optimism.

 

Humor has the power to transform your experience with a difficult issue from below it (victimized), to above it (empowered). You may have had the experience of finding an experience funny that you had found upsetting in the past. If this is the case, then you are most likely healed and over what happened.

       

If you were able to view your life like a movie or play, you could see the natural flow of events go from happy to sad, easy to hard, everything in between and back again. It is a somewhat predictable cycle, though the circumstances do change and may surprise you.

       

William Shakespeare was criticized for putting humor in some of his plays when people felt the situation called for more of a serious mood. It came across as insensitive or inappropriate. Was it really? Or was it just skipping ahead a bit because from a higher perspective he knew that it was all just an illusion of the same cycles playing out? He figured he may as well have fun with what was happening if he was able to.

 

Joan Rivers once said, “Everything is funny.” While she created a lot of amazing success in her life, she was not spared the heart wrenching devastation many face in the course of a lifetime.

 

While I did not always enjoy her style of humor, I have a great appreciation for her intelligence and wisdom. She knew that the value of humor went well beyond the entertainment industry. It is a profound tool that can be used to come back from the depths of sorrow.

 

Like many, I take my yoga practice off the mat. I study life in search of greater wisdom and truth. Some people show me what I need to work on and others set an example of where I would like to be in my personal development.


The store I currently work part-time for recently got a new manager. This lady started managing after a long line of her predecessors quit, due to the incredible amount of pressure the job put on them. Every time I work with her she seems to be in great spirits, always smiling and joking.


While I have a great number of skills that will help me to find inner peace, she seemed to have a much greater grasp on it. I often times wondered how she so easily maintained a positive mindset knowing how much work she was responsible for.


It was easy to understand why the others seemed constantly frazzled and stressed. The way this particular business is structured keeps everyone in the fear of losing their jobs and with that their livelihood.

Most people really like the concept of achieving inner peace. They enjoy imagining a life without as much stress and inner turmoil. When it comes right down to achieving this experience there are a few issues that get in the way.


True inner peace is not something you can conceptualize with your mind. Is not actually a mind process at all. To access and experience true inner peace you need to be able to drop out of thinking about anything. This is usually the part of the process where people get stuck.


Very simply put, people don't feel they can trust anything that they can't wrap their minds around. Unfortunately this includes inner peace. If there is a topic or an issue that someone feels they don't understand, they no longer feel in control of the situation. When they don't feel in control of the situation they don't feel safe.


When this happens there are usually two major issues involved. The first is that there's some sort of buildup of trauma that perpetually causes them not to feel safe outside of controlling the situation. This is probably the most common. In this case, it is possible to release the traumatic energetic blockages lying in a persons system using the technique of meditation. That is another article for another time.


The other possibility is that they are  caught up and narcissistic programming that will fundamentally stop them from doing anything they don't feel they're in control of. These cases are a little more rare.

It is hard to feel stuck and unmotivated. Especially in matters of career and business. Not only are things not progressing but we may also feel like we are letting ourselves down by not taking action.


There is such a thing as being in the flow. This is when we are flooded with inspiration. It flows freely accompanied by the drive to take action. I have found in the past that these experiences come along with bursts of energy. Taking action feels more like a rush or a buzz.


As with many things there is no black-and-white answer to this question. I can only share my experience and hope that it helps someone. I have found that the lull of activity is there for reason. Maybe it's time to take a break or focus on other areas of life.


Pushing against the stagnancy often times leads to poor results. Whatever you come up with during that time is probably not going to be your best work. This, in combination with the lack of productivity can feel very depressing.


I feel that during these times productivity can be found in other areas. Maybe we need to focus on her health or well-being. There's usually some other area of life calling our attention. There could be more information we need before we can move forward in a  successful way.

If you are like me, you have spent several years studying many different paths to oneness and wellbeing. We have so much amazing information regarding personal liberation right at our fingertips.

 

When we are implementing these teachings, we usually feel our best or at least a lot better. We feel more connected to our souls and maintain clarity of perception. This usually shows up in our bodies and personal success levels.

 

For most people, their daily spiritual practice and routine diminishes and the knowledge fades over time. Life takes over and its demands on our time and attention move the practice to the back burner. When this happens, we start to forget the life changing phrases and clarifying cliff notes that had kept us on track.