Jan’s high profile and outwardly perfect life took a drastic turn in 2005 when, after more than 20 years of marriage, her husband filed for divorce. She devoted her full time and attention to focusing inward to discover and begin healing the unresolved patterns that kept her continually making choices that were destructive to her self-love and well-being.


Her life is living testament to the saying “all roads lead home;” home being the discovery of ones most authentic self. At the age of 50 she began making choices that fostered the birth of true joy and power, including a career in personal and spiritual development and marrying a man who is 21 years younger.


For more than 5 decades, she has had diverse and highly successful careers in education, public relations, advertising, investment banking, home development, television, motivational speaking, and consulting, all dovetailing in the creation and launching of her husband, Panache Desai’s international career as a transformational catalyst, author and new thought leader. Together they have two sets of twins under the age of 3. As a busy mother with a successful business, she is now living her best life.


Jan has now begun to answer an inner calling to support women all over the world in their conscious empowerment so that they too may live the life of their dreams.


 


 

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Gratitude for the Worst Things I’ve Ever Experienced

Gratitude for the Worst Things I’ve Ever Experienced

“ Life is messy, tragic, terrifying, but also unbelievably breathtaking. There are deep gifts hidden in the most demanding challenges that life throws at us. In a time of crisis, gratitude is the key to opening your heart and unlocking the magic contained in these truly profound gifts.”

In the ring stands a boxer. He is clearly exhausted. In the early rounds of the match, he was a fighter. Then, there was a hope of winning. That hope now seems long gone. Now, the boxer is simply trying to survive. Cut and bleeding, he attempts to defend himself. Taking one body blow after another, he endures the punishment, waiting for the sound of the bell.

Does life sometimes leave you feeling like this boxer? Are you dazed and exhausted, struggling to navigate your way through whatever challenge or crisis you are facing? Do the overwhelming negative emotions that you are experiencing feel like crushing blows? Are you barely enduring, waiting for some relief, believing that you may never find your footing again? If so...come sit next to me!

Life can seem like a brutal and overwhelming opponent. Believe me, I know this feeling firsthand. One doesn’t make it into their sixth decade without experiencing a multitude of potential knock-outs. Death. Divorce. Illness. Infertility. Depression. Addiction. Really, any kind of loss is like an unexpected sucker-punch. You don’t see it coming and, when it hits, you are overwhelmed by the crushing unfairness that sends you reeling into the darkness.

Let me share my toughest fights with you. Let me be completely transparent about how I’ve felt during these insurmountable times. Let me show you how I’ve made it through to the other side. My prayer is that, in doing so, you will no longer feel completely alone. In fact, I hope you recognize my words as those of a dear friend who is reaching out a hand in recognition, comfort, love and inspiration.

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Do I Really Need to Be Superwoman? How to Access Divine Wisdom and Insight

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I spend way too many hours juggling mountains of perceived responsibilities that I willingly place on my own shoulders in an all-out effort to be the good wife, a compassionate and nurturing mother, a healthy, thriving woman, a loyal and trustworthy best friend, a voracious student of life and an ever-evolving spiritual being. It’s a big job with many hats and one that I needlessly complicate with an outdated belief that I have to “do it all” in order to be worthy of the love of myself, my family and the life that I’m living. 


There are more nights than I care to admit when I wake up at 3 am under the crushing shame, regret and sadness that I fell short of these lofty responsibilities. I yelled at the kids again… I avoided paying the bills... I neglected my spiritual practice… I forgot to return my friends call for the third time…I was too tired to make my husband dinner… I was so distracted that I ran the car into the stone gate as I pulled into the house. (I used to tell my husband that the car was hit at the store while I was buying groceries, but after the third time, he suggested I update my story or find a safer place to do the shopping!) 


I struggle to reconcile the qualities that I need to hone in order to “be love, evolve spiritually and be the best that I can be.” After all, I’m 60 now, and the sands in the hourglass of my life are hauntingly deeper and I so want to get it right while there is still time.


But then I was deeply struck with shattering clarity by author, Anita Moorjani’s newest book, “What if THIS is Heaven?” an exploration of how our cultural myths prevent us from experiencing Heaven on Earth. Moorjani is the New York Times best-selling author of Dying to Be Me, an inspiring account of her nearly four-year battle with cancer that culminated in a moving near-death experience which vastly changed her perspective on life. 

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Surefire Advice for Life in the Eye of the Storm

Surefire Advice for Life in the Eye of the Storm

My preference is for stability. But nothing remains constant. As the inevitable challenges of life confront me, at the deepest level I know I am constantly evolving into more. And yet that seismic shift can feel radically uncomfortable because paradoxically, all of the events that are unfolding are serving to shake me loose of the need for stability. Recently, nature in all her benevolence slapped me upside the head with a tangible reminder of how to release control and embrace surrender in the moments when I am most afraid.

My life has been lived in the eye of the storm literally and figuratively over the past 12 months We are approaching the one-year anniversary of our precious two-year-old, Celeste’s, catastrophic heart failure. And today marks two weeks since the most powerful storm in the history of the Atlantic, Hurricane Irma, plowed through our Southwest Florida community.

I already know the obvious question… why didn’t we get the Sam hell out of Dodge in advance of a Category 5 hurricane?

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A Letter of Our Deepest Gratitude to Organ Donor Families

A Letter of Our Deepest Gratitude to Organ Donor Families

My heart aches for you and the depth of your grief and loss.

You have faced the inconceivable; the loss of your precious child. Last night you arrived home to an empty little bed, to toys that will sit unplayed with, to a home that is unconscionably quiet.

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The #1 Most Invaluable Tool to Get You Through the Early Days of Crisis

The #1 Most Invaluable Tool to Get You Through the Early Days of Crisis

Crisis is the sucker punch of life. Unexpected. Lightening fast. Without a quick fix. It abruptly thrusts you into a steep learning curve of coping and survival amidst overwhelming consternation, confusion and chaos. Crisis is never well ordered. It’s impossible to make sense of it. And the new reality that arrives galloping along on its back leaves you paralyzed, scrambling to cope with even the simplest decisions.

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What it Takes to Stay Married: Creating a Conscious Partnership

What it Takes to Stay Married: 
Creating a Conscious Partnership

I’m a statistic; twice divorced and almost ten years into my third marriage. If you’re a numbers person, the statistics are stacked against me.

In the U.S. fifty percent of first marriages end in divorce with 67 percent of second and 73 percent of third marriages ending in divorce.

It appears that happily ever after really doesn’t exist.

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3 Powerful Ways to End Your Suffering

3 Powerful Ways to End Your Suffering

I want. I want… I want…. It’s one of the most dangerous phrases you will ever speak

How can five letters hold such power?

I WANT has the immense and immediate ability to rip you away from the grace and power of the present moment while disconnecting you from the joy, passion and peace that is your birthright.

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How To Use This Litmus Test for Living An Authentic Life

How To Use This Litmus Test for Living An Authentic Life

What does it mean to live authentically? And most importantly, how can we know whether or not we are living it?

For the majority of my life, I ran in the opposite direction of my authenticity. I call these decades ‘my chameleon years’. I was as changeable as the person or project I was standing near. More than anything I wanted to fit in, to be accepted, to be recognized for my contribution, to feel an integral part of a clan. I wanted my parents to look at me and say, “She’s a success.”

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4 Steps to Beginning Again

4 Steps to Beginning Again

On the cusp of turning 50 I found myself single after being married for over 20 years.

I was heartbroken. I felt ashamed, profoundly depressed and haunted by the fear of being penniless. I felt ill-equipped to begin again. I was consumed by the never-ending loop of my own voice whispering, “I refuse to make the same mistakes in the 2nd half of my life that I had made over and over again.”

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30 Simple Ways to Create Balance and Connection

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