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Why Thanksgiving Is My Favorite Holiday

We are heading into my favorite week of the year.


Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday because it represents everything that is important to me: My family (I just spent a few days with two of my cousins. How deeply meaningful it was to share laughter and connection with them), my kids, my friends, my open table, food, and my faith in this country.

 
I’ve thought a lot lately about welcoming people to the table—not just to my Thanksgiving table, but to my kitchen table on a weekly basis as well. I deeply believe that we all have a common desire to be welcomed, to be invited in, to be included—not just on Thanksgiving, but on every day of our lives. I know I do.
 
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Making “impossible” POSSIBLE

Manifesting our heart’s desire doesn’t always happen instantly, magically, or effortlessly.


It rarely happens that way.


It can often be a long, circuitous route.


In fact, it’s normal, to sometimes get to the point where you say to yourself:


“It’s just too hard.”


“It isn’t meant to be.”


Blah. Blah. Blah.


And, then, it’s up to YOU to re-ignite your passion and persistence, to take daily steps to make your dreams come true.

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These Great Gifts We Take for Granted

“We use them each and every day without giving them so much as a second thought,” says thought-leader, author and philosopher Ken Wilber.


He’s referring to some Gifts that come with our lives in the Western, or developed world, although some range beyond that and apply even in primitive societies.


He focuses on four we never think about, calling them “Mental Software” that is installed, without our necessarily understanding that it’s happening, as Givens in our society. So he’s not talking about Awareness; the ability to Think; my favourite – the ability to compare (similars) and contrast (dissimilars); or the necessities most of us do take for granted: food, potable water, shelter. We’ve had a stark illustration of having that rug pulled out from under us in the situation in Puerto Rico, where a large portion of the population has been living without those. Could you go a week without these survival supports that are normally provided for us in modern society? I wouldn’t know where to start.

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How Do You Learn to Love Yourself?

It is a question I am asked all of the time.


HOW?????


When I think back to how I began the process of learning to love myself, it was 10 steps. When I was 19 years old, I read a book called You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. You know Louise Hay, right? She is one of the most incredible teachers of Self-Love there has ever been. She left this world on August 30th of this year, at the perfect age of 90. She truly was a teacher of absolute unconditional SELF-LOVE. I do the work I do because of this woman’s words, strung together in that amazing book, that I read back in 1990.

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What are the implications of labeling our sexual orientations?

I grew up in a time where I was a closet homosexual. That was what I called myself. I had a girlfriend, and I did the whole double life thing.


I was a psychotherapist in the University Health Services, and they began to see that I was quite successful with people that were easily confused about sexual identity. So pretty soon, they gave me all the homosexual cases. They had no idea about my sexual orientation. I mean, this is in the therapeutic counsel, and at one point a young man who I had met, and who was staying at my apartment, I loaned him my car for the day, which was a rather distinctive car.

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What To Do If Your Partner Cheats? (video blog)

If your partner cheats on you, it is undoubtedly deeply painful.


To feel your heart and trust betrayed is a difficult thing to recover from.


So does that automatically mean the end of your relationship?


Consider this:

Relationship is a profound path of personal growth, and spiritual evolution.


You attracted your partner because your souls have certain things to teach each other. The purpose of relationship is to serve each other’s soul growth, learn those lessons, and become the most authentic version of yourself.


So if you understand the real purpose of relationship, then you also understand that inevitably your issues will come up in the relationship, in order to be worked on.

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The “Halo” Effect of Love

This past weekend I was honored to officiate my first wedding…my beautiful niece Rachel and her soulmate Jason.

 

It was an inspiring, beautiful, and fun event with more than 250 friends and family gathered in the French Quarter of New Orleans to celebrate and bless the love they share.

 

One of things I became very aware of over the weekend was the palpable and constant waves of happiness.

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How to Raise Your Self-Esteem in Two Steps

It is my personal opinion that most people are unnecessarily insecure. These insecurities can hold people back from being truly happy, and living life to the fullest. Where do these insecurities come from? How can we become more confident?


The need for the approval of others is one of our first learned behaviors. As we started life, many of us learned that we received our parents love when we did things that pleased them. We were met with negativity, or not as much love, when we did things that upset them. Our parents were the gods of our universe at that time, and their love was not only desired instinctually, but was necessary for our survival.

As we move out into the world as individuals, we still feel that the acceptance and praise of others keeps us validated, and defines us as meaningful contributors to society. So this means that a large motivator for doing anything is the expectation of positive feedback from someone else.


When we receive praise, we allow it to lift us up, and we feel good about what we have done. A negative reaction from someone, can make us feel bad, and can even make us question our validity.


People's responses to outside stimulus are based mostly on unconscious neurological brain patterns. In other words, positive or negative judgments are not based on any valid truth. We have low self-esteem because we’ve allowed this to define us as people.

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How Learning to Say ‘No’ May Save the Good Standing of a Relationship

As people we are fundamentally wired to want to help others. It is an experience that has the power to open our hearts and raise us up. That is why I find working in the service industry is so gratifying. I find every opportunity to help others in any capacity to be a catalyst to more joy and contentment. I also make it a point to serve selflessly when ever possible.

 

There is a gap between the good intentions for helping and the physical follow through. These are two very different things that may get confused as the same during the beginning stages of helping another.

 

With today’s busy lifestyles and constant communication stimulus, it is easy for our words to lose meaning and our promises to lie empty. The cause of this is partially the fact that we are multi-tasking and not grounded. i.e. Noticing a text while driving and forgetting that it ever happened and never responding because driving safely is much more of a priority. We are not being present with our communications.

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A Gateway to a New Expression: Self Love….

I have always been under the belief that “self love” is selfish…this is not true!   I was brought up in a family of 7 which included my parents and I tended to the younger siblings quite often as my Mom always did for everyone else but not herself.  I am sure this contributed to my belief system  of putting  yourself first is selfish.  I also was under the influence of the church that it was better to give than receive and I felt quilty when I did receive.  Most of my life I would seemingly  put other peoples needs before mine.  I  believe the resentment I have felt was because I didn’t nurture myself, but I was an expert at nurturing others.  After all it is much easier to tend to others than yourself!

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Louise Hay’s Mirror Work for more LOVE

It’s hard to imagine a world without Louise Hay in it…she transitioned last week on August 30th – exactly two years after her longtime friend Wayne Dyer passed.

 

For decades, I have admired Louise and looked up to her as my icon for spiritual growth, and aging gracefully and powerfully.

 

I loved her fierce courageousness, her willingness to do and say the right thing with the causes that called to her, and her brilliance, personal style and joie de vivre always inspired me.

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How To Know When To End Your Relationship

Relationship is about growth.

We come together in relationship with another for our evolution and growth.

The people you attract are simply mirror manifestations in that moment in time that reflect who you are.

Relationship is really not about the duration that you stay with someone, but the degree to which you both grow, evolve, and become more authentically your true Self.

Staying in a relationship where you are both no longer growing simply because that is the thing to do based on societal standards, or because you made a commitment years ago, is not success.


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Turning Cranky into Happy

I am not sure if it’s the eclipse energy from last week, or the constantly bad news on TV, or Mercury Retrograde, or what, but I have been feeling a bit cranky lately.

 

So, I have been digging deep into my spiritual tool-kit.

 

This morning, I added extra lavender to my bath, while doing rounds of  EFT tapping on “I’m cranky and I totally and completely love myself.”

 

On the way to the grocery store, I listened to one of my favorite spiritual teachers, which was uplifting, and I spent a long time cuddling on the back deck with my cat Max.

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Total Eclipse

Every eclipse of the sun represents symbolically the activation of a frightened part of your personality. While that part is active, it obstructs the experience of your love, which is represented symbolically by the sun. Yet in the midst of that obstruction there is a great deal of power and beauty that is visible physically in a total eclipse of the sun.

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LOVE – it’s Never Too Late!

My deepest knowing is this:  There is MORE than enough love in the world for everyone, especially YOU!

Regardless of your age, weight, circumstances, history or location, I know that if you have the desire for heart opening, mind-blowing, soul-stirring love, then it is meant to be yours.

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How To Deal With Difficult Parents

You have the perfect parents for your soul’s growth and evolution in this lifetime.

Your parents may not be perfect human beings, as they too are souls on this journey of life and are here to learn lessons like you.

Relationships with parents can be some of the most challenging and difficult to navigate.


Ask yourself: What are the lessons that your soul is seeking to learn with them?

They give birth to you, raise you, and impact so much of who you become.

They simply did the best that they knew how to do at that time of their lives, even though it may not have been what you wanted.

It’s highly unlikely they woke up each day thinking about how they could cause you the most suffering. Likely they were in pain themselves.

Hurt people tend to HURT other people, and the cycle continues.

You can break the cycle and take your power back.

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How to Shift the Patterns of Inferiority For Ourselves and Others

The moment we become aware of the darker workings of the ego and realize that we exist outside of it, we become conscious. This begins the process of recreating our reality and life experience.

 

I, like so many others had developed an inferiority complex due to the misjudgments and misconception my mind had formed around certain experiences of abuse. Once the belief had formed in the back of my mind that I was worthless and unimportant, it started to project it onto other people as a way to reinforce it. Subconsciously they would be prompted to validate these misconceptions. In some cases it just seemed that way.

 

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5 Ways to Embrace Your Body and Love the Skin YOU’RE In

It’s that time of year. A time when you think about your body… and wish it were different. Or … maybe it is always that time of year for you.

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Healing Power of Gratitude

Ready to feel better and heal faster?  Many scientific studies, including research by renowned psychologists Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough, have found that people who consciously focus on gratitude experience greater emotional well-being and physical health than those who don’t.

 

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How do we move past feelings of inadequacy when it comes to loving ourselves and others?

The term “love” is used by many people. Most of the time when they use the term love, they are talking about romantic love. They are talking about love that is fused with need, and if you look at the process of falling in love, it’s an interesting process.


You have a heart that is love, but it’s closed to you by your own mind. So you’re like a hungry ghost, looking all the time.


Then you meet somebody, and they have a key that fits in a lock that opens you to your own heart, and you think, “I am in love.”

 

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