Don’t Forget To Smile

Sometimes life gets hectic and things seem to pass by in a blur. Other times the weight of the things occurring may cause you to feel weary or down.

 

There are times life invites you to embrace uncomfortability, stretch your boundaries and reevaluate your limits. Sometimes in unpredictable, but pleasant new ways; other times in ways riddled with challenges.

 

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Why the Silence?

Sexual Assault is a violation that occurs in many different forms with the side-effects lasting a lifetime.

 

So, why does a victim stay silent at all?

 

I think it is easy to look at someone’s situation or circumstance and pass judgments based on what you would do. Because it is easy to say if…  then I would …

 

However, thinking about a circumstance or a situation and playing out the scenario in your head is extremely different than having lived it and experienced it for yourself firsthand.

 

Violations of this degree go far beyond the physical act. The victim is left with permanent emotional, physical, and psychological scars. Meaning that once the act itself is over, it isn’t over for the victim. The victim often re-lives that act repeatedly because of the multiple ways to which the violation impacts them. Leaving them with more than one could imagine, to learn to cope with.

 

Probably one of the most common reasons silence occurs is fear. But fear confines us all in different ways.

 

And a victim stays silent for several other reasons:

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#metoo Out of the Silence Comes Dignity and Healing

I like to blog about things related to how we co- create reality, and solutions that can help us become the person we want to be. I am always focused on this and feel it’s important to know there is a spiritual solution for every problem. I also only write about what I know and what I’ve overcome. I share only from experience. I have to keep it real, or you’re going to be reading fluff, and if you’re anything like me you can smell BS a mile away. Not into stinky.


I’ve been watching the trending topic of the #metoo movement that has set fire to Hollywood in recent weeks. To be honest I have taken my time rather than jump in because I think it’s a very sensitive issue, and yes I tend to stay away from hot button issues (like politics and religion too) because they can be divisive, and it’s not why people read my blogs.
I have been called to talk about this regardless.


For those of you that don’t know what I’m talking about in a nutshell it began with movie mogul Harvey Weinstein being called out for sexual abuse, and then an avalanche of women began to share their stories, and then some men came to add their voices too.
In the past few weeks #metoo has been shared millions of times on social media as women and men who have experienced sexual abuse from people in power have spoken out about their secrets and shame, and how the experience affected them.


Make no mistake this form of abuse is soul destroying and will, for some people, create an internal set up, a commitment to maintain all manner of coping behaviors that can take a lifetime to unravel. Not talking about it, keeping it a secret is the first way in which we rob ourselves of our true nature of joy and abundance. Our dignity and self worth depends on sharing and healing.


Last night my husband and myself watched a movie called Wind River and there is a rape scene in the film that brought back so many memories, I knew it was time to add my voice.

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The Transformative Power of “Me Too”

It has become a social media phenomena, the #MeToo that says “yes, I too have been sexually harassed or abused.” Women’s voices are finally being heard and acknowledged in huge numbers after years of fear, shame, secrecy, and silence. We have endured hidden and overt harassment in our lives since childhood. Children of both sexes have also been subjected to sexual abuse, and women of all ages have been raped and traumatized. At last, the invisible is becoming visible, and the secrets are becoming public as courageous individuals shine the light of truth on sexual predation and disempowerment.

 

Presidents, priests, Olympic doctors, Hollywood moguls, and countless unnamed others are part of a worldwide epidemic of disrespect and sexual violation. With great bravery and integrity, women, and adults of both sexes who were abused as children, are speaking up and sharing the experiences they have held inside themselves for so long. Each revelation empowers others to speak up and say “me too.” Each voice that is heard adds to the collective transformation from personal trauma to liberation from fear and shame.

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How to Find Conscious Empowerment for Personal Beauty

This is about finding freedom, empowerment, appreciation, and satisfaction in your own personal beauty.

Today many women feel inadequate in comparison to the beauty standards of today's society. The media bombards us with the idea that we are not enough as we are. We are not thin enough, our lashes aren't long enough and are hair is missing texture. It is suggested that signs of aging decrease our value as people, and must be compensated for by the newest wrinkle cream on the market.

I consider myself to be a conscious person but I have noticed that I have also bought into some of the hype. I don't allow the influence of propaganda to make me buy Tide detergent. I have, however, allowed my mind to believe that I am substandard, in comparison to other women in the world.

This idea or belief is constantly in the back of my mind, creating pain and diminishing the quality of my life. When I see an ad for makeup, or a high-fashion magazine spread, the first thought that floods my mind, is always the same; " I don't look like that, and looking like that is what will make me desirable, and loved by others." In the back of my mind, I have a belief that, as long as other women look that way, I would never be anybody's first choice.

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The Power of Re-evaluating Your Beliefs

The news of the week, as it always does, got me thinking. It got me thinking about politics. Thinking about addiction. Thinking about success. Thinking about how to live one’s life.


Every new year, I usually do some kind of inventory of my own life. But I can’t wait until then. I just can’t. (Plus, my birthday is around the corner, so now is as good a time as any.)


And the truth is, it’s not just the news that has got me re-evaluating. My body has also been speaking to me to pay attention. My heart has been calling me out. My mind is telling me not to get caught up in the noise, but to instead step back and think about the effect that the noise has on my life, and on all of our lives. Plus, it’s all been giving me a complex migraine, complete with vertigo and vestibular damage (don’t ask).

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What are some tools we can use for positive transformation?

The tools for positive transformation that I’m most aware of are the nature of the human mind, and the nature of the human heart… the quietness of mind and the ability to sit in a place where you’re not in a reactive mode.


In the old days kings used to have elders that didn’t have a line to power, but they would be there, as they were, to keep the space, or keep the vision. There’s just none of that now in the political environment. Talking to my friends in the political world, there’s nobody that’s not reactive, or rather there’s nobody that’s responsive rather than reactive.


Part of what I’ve done is a book on conscious aging, which had to do with the role of elders in a society. This role is known well in Native American cultures. It’s known in many indigenous cultures and other historical cultures. However, because our technology has moved so fast, and we are so focused on knowledge as opposed to wisdom, people become obsolete very quickly. And that obsolescence is throwing out a resource that the society needs. We end up missing the whole model of what to value. It takes an older person to accept the fact that they have a unique curriculum, because our society says that the older person who is valued, is the one that has stayed young. See, because youth is such a focus of the society.


So part of what I see as tools for transformation have to do with honoring what you are as an instrument for transformation – and that has to do with the mind and the heart and the skills.

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Sexual Harassment – Enough Already (my story)

Bill Cosby, Roger Ailes, Harvey Weinstein, Bill O’Reilly… just a few of the high profile sexual predators who were finally exposed.


Not one of them has really, truly apologized for their horrible behavior and the pain and suffering they have caused.


Weinstein blamed it on the “culture of his time.”  As someone who came of age in this culture, there were many times when my “bosses” came on to me sexually in the workplace.


The first time it happened, I was just out of college, working as a photojournalist for a weekly entertainment paper in Fort Lauderdale.  One day, the boss (whose name I have now forgotten, but I do recall he had a huge beer belly and wore white patent leather shoes) walked into my darkroom which was dimly illuminated by a red safelight.  With a sickening sneer on his face, and while grabbing himself, he asked: “Would you like some of this?” I put my hands in the developer pan and told him he if he took one more step I would throw the acid-based chemicals in his face, which sent him running. (I have no idea if this would have done any damage to him or not). It never occurred to me to quit this job that I loved and there was no one to tell.  It was a small staff, run by his much younger wife.


I thought I handled it pretty well considering….

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How to Say No!!!! In a Loving Way :)

The late Steve Jobs once said: “Focus is about saying no.”


Over-committing to others often ends up with you supporting them and taking you away from your focus, pulling you away from what it is you truly desire. This is not good for anyone. It’s not good for your career, your relationships and most importantly, it’s not good for your SOUL. This is a people-pleaser’s disease that will cause stress, burnout, overwhelm and sometimes even more serious physical diseases.


It is time to look at why you always say yes. Is it out of obligation? Obligation stems from fear, not love. When you do something from a place of love, the energy is light, happy, joyful and intentional. So, if you are saying yes because you feel you should, you are only harming yourself … And oftentimes setting yourself up for expectation, not always intentionally, that they now owe you too. That might not be your intention, but it is often what happens.


It is time to say no to those things that you take on because you “should” and instead replace them with time spent on your desires and dreams … YOURS!! It’s time to learn to say no from a place of love. It can be done.


So, how do you say no?

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Girl Power!

POWER!


The
Power to be definitive in who we are.
The
Power to take control of our lives.
The
Power to fulfill our dreams.
The
Power to follow our hearts.
The
Power to take a chance.
The
Power to Become.
The
Power to change.
The
Power to lead.
The
Power to do.


The
Power to become a part of something larger than ourselves.

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A Letter To Humanity (URGENT!)

Dear World,


Let’s all take a moment of intention to send love and prayers to Las Vegas, and all of those places on the planet that need love. (Houston, Charlottesville, Mexico City, and more.)


This is a wake up call, and we can no longer push the snooze button.


More than ever, we must all now step up and vote for Truth and Love in our lives. With every thought, action, intention, we are co-creating our world and future.


We can let the outer circumstances determine who we are going to be, or we can consciously choose love. Each time we choose negativity or indulge in reactivity, we reinforce the current reality.

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Predicting the Future.. or Creating it?

If you’ve been following my posts about Oracle School you will know and hear me say some strong things about working with oracles and how asking “what’s going to happen” is about giving away your power instead of being empowered to choose, to intend, and to see who we can become in partnership with Spirit.


This may seem contradictory given I have built my reputation over 30 years on predictive accuracy as an intuitive although I have always maintained that I am only looking at probabilities and never absolutes.


I do not believe in absolute determinism.


If I did I would not be where I am today since a number of well known intuitives in the past have predicted things that had I continued on the path I was on would likely have happened.
I changed and the vantage point changed, the predictions changed because my choices changed.

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A Boost Of Hope Can Keep You Going

Sometimes hope is what you need.

 

If you’re human, you’re going to come across at least one period in your life when you’re down and out. A time when it feels like life is against you. A time when monetary funds are depleted, your friends are nonexistent or your direction is blurry.

 

During this period there will be times when the stars seem to align and out of the blue synchronicity happens. It seems like your prayers have been answered and the solution you were waiting for appears. Your outlook has brightened and you feel hopeful and inspired. You proceed accordingly; thinking there is no way that things can’t work out at this point, especially with the ideal solution right in front of you.

 

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What I Learned During My Spiritual Break

I’m writing this as I would write a note to a friend who I haven’t spoken to in awhile. I’m back from my self-imposed spiritual break and wanted to check in. How are you? How is your world? How are you feeling on this day about our larger world?

I know I don’t have to ask that question of Mother Earth. She feels as angry as she’s ever been. But, I hope those living directly in her path feel supported by the outpouring of love, unity and assistance that is coming their way.

At a time like this, it almost feels mundane for me to talk about my time away this past month. But, The Sunday Paper is dedicated to trying to provide a sanctuary and a moment of reprieve from the storms that surround us — be they climate-related, political, or otherwise. So, if you don’t mind, I’ll bring you up to date on my last few weeks.

My time away in August was wonderful and productive. Before I left, I wrote down a list of intentions for my break. I wanted to step back from the noise of our world so that I could reflect, reconnect and approach my life and work with a renewed sense of passion and purpose.

There were so many times along the way that I wanted to jump back into the world of social media to comment on this or that (North Korea, Charlottesville, Heather Heyer and her inspiring mom, Houston and Hurricane Harvey, etc…) So many times that I wanted to drive my car back into the office so that I could feel plugged in, connected and purposeful. But, I didn’t.

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5 Ways to Stay Grounded and Connected Living this Thing We Call Life

I am a work in progress … always … and some days are better than others. How about you?

One thing I see a lot in my clients and students, and something I have struggled with in the past myself … is staying connected to spirit … being consistent with my spiritual practice. I have found that for myself, that it is an absolute necessity even though for many years I felt like it was a choice. It’s not, not for me anyway. I soon discovered … that for me …

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How to Avoid “The Happiness Trap”

Have you ever looked forward to being happier in the future after you achieve a big goal such as graduating from college, getting married, or finally finding a new job?

Well, I have definitely been there and done that multiple times. When I got my degree, for example, I convinced myself I would be happy after I got my first job. When my entry-level job wasn’t very fulfilling, I told myself I would be happier once I got promoted and moved to the company’s headquarters in Silicon Valley and paid off my school debts. But, even after all of those wonderful things happened, I still wasn’t happy and thought that getting married would finally make me happy. Well, my husband did bring a lot of light into my life, but I soon realized that I STILL hadn’t achieved a state of true happiness.

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You Are Not Alone

Do you feel alone in the world? Are you feeling isolated, or overwhelmed, and confused? Are you feeling lost and aren’t sure where to go and what to do? Do you wish you had real support, some extra help to get through the day? The good news is that you are not ever. You have many beautiful spirit guides with you at all times, eager to help and ready to do so right now. Moreover, the more you ask for their help, the happier they are to offer it. Watch this video to learn how to connect with your spirit guides right away and begin to benefit from their assistance and comfort.

Forget The Destination, The Gold Is The Journey

The destination means nothing if you don’t appreciate the journey.

 

Life is a journey, not a destination. You’ve probably heard it before. But, what does it actually mean?

 

How many times were you asked as a child “What do you want to be when you grow up?”

 

From an early age you’re thrust into the mind frame of attaining, accomplishing or doing ‘something.’ Trying to be somebody. Wanting to go somewhere. Working hard to make something of your life. You get so focused on what you want to be, where you want to go, or what you want to do that you see where you are – right here, right now – as just a stepping stone; a necessary requirement for your desired result.

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The Importance of Mindset, Meditation & Mastermind

I attribute much of my success to the importance of mindset, meditation, and masterminding. They have contributed much to my life and you too can enjoy their benefits as well with a little effort.

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A Worldview that Can Liberate Everyone

When the world looks as turbulent and troubled as it does now, people feel trapped. Instead of feeling secure in prosperous safety zones, even developed countries now feel the pressure of uncontrollable forces, including stateless terrorism, a historical peak in refugees, the threat of epidemic diseases, and fast-encroaching climate change. How many people truly believe that these problems will be solved—or are even solvable? An erosion of hope is underway, and this more than anything must be reversed.

 

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