The 4 Keys To Asking For What You Want

If you don’t ask, you don’t receive.

If you want to receive big, you must dare to ask big.

But sometimes you might ask and still not receive.

There is an art to asking for help and what you want.

In order to manifest your dream or vision, you will need other people’s support. No one did anything great alone.

It takes real courage to ask for help.

Pretending you don’t need it is a sure sign of weakness.

When you are truly strong, you can allow yourself to be vulnerable.

Vulnerability is not a weakness, rather it is a strength.

It takes a strong person to acknowledge they need help. 

It takes an even stronger one to ask for it.

It takes yet a stronger one to accept and receive it. 

It’s often easier at times to be the one giving to others rather than the one receiving. To receive requires that you open your heart and let someone into it. To receive is to allow someone to touch you deeply.

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Moving On and Letting Go of Everything Past

Last fall, the house where my partner Anne and I lived in Massachusetts went up for sale. We knew immediately that that For Sale sign was also a sign from God: Time to move on! A door was closing, but another was so clearly being opened. Fortunately, we had a lease that allowed us to remain in our apartment for several months after the house was sold. We had plenty of time to make decisions and then step through that open door into new possibilities. As events unfolded, we felt guided to move to Florida, where we had a number of friends, and the winters did not include snow, ice, and freezing temperatures. Also (and this was key), we discovered that buying a condo there was less expensive than the rent we were currently paying in Boston. Neon signs pointing south…

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Message from Immigrants and Plants

As I prepare for my August Omega workshop Sacred Plants: Touching the Jaguar and trips that I guide where participants learn from indigenous shamans in Latin America, I think about the messages that nature and the immigrants attempting to enter the US and Europe offer.

Our first reaction to environmental problems and those associated with immigrants often is to cast blame:

  • Fossil fuels, mining, food production, etc. are destroying the environment;

  • Corruption and brutality in other countries, climate change, gangs, cartels, etc. trigger immigration.

 

We tend to avoid the tough questions:

  • Who uses fossil fuels, aluminum, plastics, sweat-shop made clothes, and food?

  • Who does the corrupting, supports brutality, causes climate change and drug use?

 

We look for band-aides to stop the bleeding; we turn a blind eye on the virus that opens the lesions.

The fact is that most environmental degradation is the result of predatory capitalism. Most immigrants are people who are miserable, desperate, and fearful for their lives.

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Happy Summertime!!!

It’s been a hot one here in Arizona … 117 degrees the other day when my hubby and I had an adventure on the lake when a monsoon “haboob” hit us. Yes, that is a real word, look it up if it’s new to you … kind of a funny word😊

Anyway, we made it back to our camp … with a lot of paddling effort on our parts and a little help from our friends😊

And all was well…

Although unexpected as it hit soooo fast, it was a fun little adventure.

But I was thinking afterwards…

Life is meant to be an adventure, right?  It’s a journey of joy and pain and exploration and excitement and grief and peace and everything in between. Really, it’s a constant journey of expansion and contraction.

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Marking Your Milestones with Meaning

I’m writing this on the New Moon in Cancer, and I’m intimately aware that things are about to change for me. New moons are about setting intentions and this one is particularly meaningful for me as I am about to cross a threshold that stretches out across the sands of time. I am accepting an invitation to move into something unknown, new, and powerful. My intentions are clear, and so is my vulnerability.

This week I turn 60. Yes, it’s a strange number for me, but the power is in the meaning I assign to it.  It is decidedly not going to mean the same thing that our culture has conditioned me to believe. Yet it is beyond that, a sacred journey marker in time, that represents something important for me personally but also symbolically for all modern women who have lost the way to recognize their milestones as representing a sacred quality.

Have you ever felt that sense of deeper meaning as you approach an important milestone in your life? Outside of births and deaths, or religious ceremonies in western culture, we don’t make sacred the rites of passage when a girl begins to menstruate or mark the phases in our life as women as we move from maiden, priestess, queen, then crone.  How do we know what these phases mean? It’s not enough to see that there are the decades marked in fashion magazines with suggestions for how we should appear. Our milestones are those of the soul, the mystical, and markers of the maturation of experience as we travel and write the stories of our lives.

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Is It Judgment or Discernment?

I have had to wage war on my judgments.

They’re idiots if their driving doesn’t suit me. Hey, salesclerk, are you here to serve customers like me or to chat, you slovenly beast? I’m walking here, if you’ll let me, you mob-thinking plebes. Aww, go to hell !

I’ve overcome what I wanted to in terms of judgments, and substituted Discernment.

“Real magic means an absence of judgment of others.” ---Wayne Dyer


How I Overcame My Judgments

There are 3 components to my moving away from judgments: Gratitude, Humility and Acceptance.

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How to Communicate Effectively With Others

If everyone was able to understand exactly what you were trying to say each and every time you were communicating, you would certainly encounter less friction in your interactions. Unfortunately, clear, effective communication isn’t always as simple as we take it to be.

The good news though, is that, like anything else, communication can be improved to help strengthen your relationships, your business partnerships, and your social interactions.

Effective communication is one of the cornerstones of a lasting relationship. Without it, you will inevitably find your relationship on troubled waters.

In order to improve the communication that takes place in any relationship, try these following things.

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The Unstoppable Force of Change

Unfortunately, we all experience hard times in our lives. Life hits us hard when we least expect it.

 

You may be facing a divorce. Your home may have been hit by a tornado, earthquake or some other force of nature. You might have been stricken with an illness that keeps you from working or operating in your day-to-day life. Or maybe, the people around you are breaking off or looking to change their relationship with you.

 

Change is an unstoppable force in all of our lives. Sometimes it hits us so hard and fast, it feels like our heads are constantly spinning. And when we’re not prepared for it, we feel victimized by forces that seem completely out of our hands.

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How To Change Your Bad “Karma” and Get Into FLOW

We all go through difficult times, when things don’t seem to work out.

 

It’s easy to lose hope and feel like you are facing bad karma or luck during these moments.

 

Your karma is the result of the sum total of your actions. For every cause there is an effect.

 

If you are going through tough times right now, remember that it is only a season, and no season lasts forever. Even your most difficult time will pass.

 

Trust.

 

Your challenges are gifts in disguise sent by the universe to strengthen your character. Your dreams chose you for a reason. And your dream will take you on a journey of having to become the person who is capable of fulfilling the vision.

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Making change long-term

I’m a firm believer in making small changes each day to make it to your ultimate goal. It’s no secret that our daily habits define our short- and long-term outcomes. But I also think that sometimes we need to look at the big picture. To get to where we want to be, considering our long-term goal helps us determine our daily actions.

 

After the “honeymoon”

 

A lot of us make the decision to lose weight or spend less and save more. And the first two weeks – the honeymoon phase – we are making huge leaps towards our big goals. Our motivation is sky high; we avoid possible temptations and we smash through barriers and view our mistakes battle scars. Nothing will stop us from achieving that big goal.

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See the Person

Who is behind the mask?

The Practice:See the person behind the eyes.

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The Power of Shifting Your Perspective

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the power of shifting your thinking.

 

I’ve written in the past about shifting my own thinking from “I have to…” to “I GET to” I also wrote last week about my shifting my thinking on time from “It’s happening to me…,” to “It’s happening FOR me…”

 

Shifting your thoughts can shift your perception of a person, of a place, of an event, or most importantly, of yourself. How you view yourself is truly dependent on how you think about yourself and your life.

 

Do you see yourself as a victim? If so, try shifting to survivor. Tell yourself, “I am a survivor.” Just use the word over and over again.

 

Do you see yourself as weak and indecisive? Then tell yourself that you are brave, clear and confident instead.

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Feeling Complacent? Here's How To Fix That

Imagine being in a job or a profession that no longer excites you or maybe it never did. You get up. Get dressed. Pour yourself some coffee. Go to work. Finish work. Have dinner. Go to bed. Rinse and repeat day-after-day, month-after-month, and year-after-year.
 
It’s a comfortable gig. It’s a known gig.
 
Welcome to complacency.
 
It happens.
 
It happens in business. It happens in the workplace. It happens in our relationships. It happens in our day-to-day. It settles into our lives and we unknowingly welcome it.
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Your Inspired Vision Is Waiting For YOU!

I can't believe that summer is almost here and that, like so many of you, I, am thinking about my summer plans. This summer I have the privilege of leading The Shadow Experience: Breaking Through to Emotional & Spiritual Freedom at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York. For me this is still humbling.


I remember the first time I went to Omega in 2002. I had another business at the time. It was called Go Goddess! and we created games to connect and empower women and girls. As a result of the success of that business, we were asked to do speaking engagements and workshops. Although I was a "great girlfriend," I quickly realized that those traits didn't qualify me to stand up in the front of a room and hold, support, and advise other people. I decided I needed some sort of formal training. I called The Ford Institute because I'd heard that they offered the best life coach training program out there. The man I spoke with said that I could jump into the training which had already started if I promised to attend Debbie Ford's upcoming workshop at Omega. Something in my heart told me to jump and I did.

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The Miracle of Everyday Joy

Maybe you’ve been there. You’re determined to try and gain (or regain) a greater measure of insight and enlightenment in your life - the kind of enlightenment that can lead to real joy and significant satisfaction. So you make the decision to begin a spiritual practice - meditation, prayer, journaling, or even simple reflection.

The setting for the first day of your new practice can vary. You may be in a low-lit room or you could be outside in the sunshine. Maybe you’re alone or surrounded by others with a similar goal. No matter where you are, it can feel like you’re a warrior on the day of battle. You sit and you wait for this momentous beginning to occur, for enlightenment, insight, and truth to wash over you.


However, there’s a good chance that all of this is occurring at the beginning or the end of a long day. As you sit there, your mind, which didn’t get the memo regarding your new practice, starts to spit up all the things that are on your to-do list. Or...all the things that you failed to cross off that list.

Stop it! Concentrate!

You take a deep breath and begin again, trying to clear your monkey mind. But it swings wildly, throwing crazy disjointed thoughts through your awareness like the never-ending news ticker at the bottom of a CNN news report. Red wine. Yes, full-bodied delicious red wine. You think about how nice it would be to have glass of wine and slip into a warm bath. Isn’t the new episode of “The Crown” on tonight?

Stop this! Cut this crap out! Get serious!

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Try Letting Go with a God Box..

Where are you spending most of your time—the past, present, or the future?

If you primarily focus on your past or your future, you become a ghost in your present. Living in the NOW is where your real power is. In fact, your brightest future and most peaceful past both hinge on your ability to stay in the present, where you’re connected to your intuition and the Divine.

We live in an age of distraction, future planning, and ruminating about the past. So many of us get caught in a cycle of beating ourselves up about the past or longing for something in the future. When we do quiet the buzzing in our minds, we often encounter media discussions about our economic future or some sort of scrutiny about a government decision from 10 years ago. Even the metaphysical community is wrapped up with what’s going to happen in the future. As a culture, we’re almost allergic to the present!

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See the Big Picture


The tree or the forest?

The Practice:

See the big picture.

Why?

I once went to the movies when it was raining and brought my umbrella. Arriving early, I sat down on a bench to read, then headed to the theater. Suddenly I heard, “Uh, mister!”—and turned to see a teenage boy with a friendly smile running toward me with my umbrella. He didn’t know me but went out of his way to help a stranger.

As a small frog in a huge pond, I once gave a talk at the World GovernmentSummit in Dubai, and had a similar experience. Political news can sometimes be alarming. Yes, whatever is truly bad is truly bad. But meanwhile, what I saw in Dubai was a thousand or so people, each one representing thousands if not millions of others in the United Nations, nonprofits, government agencies, media, religious organizations, and businesses that are working hard to nudge our world to a better place.

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Sunny side up

Self criticism could be ruining your peace of mind, learn to change tracks...


Why can’t I do anything right....is one question we ask ourselves so many times. Many of us have this self critical habit. We are too harsh on ourselves and this itself can lead to a huge stress. We need to stop this inner critic from sabotaging our happiness constantly.


Though many times we like to believe that this little voice inside is helpful as it keeps us motivated, but many times it works the other way round. It can be very damaging to our psyche. Not only is the inner critic creating emotional damage, it is also taking toll on one’s physical self. Emotional issues create stress. They suppress the immune system thereby leading to many physical problems.


The inner critic

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Get Motivated By Learning the Importance of Taking Action

“What we think or what we know or what we believe is, in the end, of little consequence. The only consequence is what we do.” - John Ruskin 

When you take action, not only do additional resources come your way, but you get feedback that helps you adjust your course and refine your approach.

In my seminars, I conduct a very illustrative exercise. I hold up a $100 bill and ask participants if any of them would like to have it.  I stand in front of the room, and wait until they “get it.” 

Usually, after several seconds, someone jumps out of their seat and rushes forward to pluck the $100 bill out of my hand. I then tell the rest of the audience that they, too, could have been the one to get the money if only they had taken action.


The Importance of Taking Action

The truth is, while most of us know a lot about earning money, making things happen and bringing about change in the world, only a surprising few get to have all the abundance, glory and satisfaction this world has to offer—simply because they are the select few who consistently take action.

Taking action is the one thing that separates the winners from the non-winners…the haves from the have-nots…and the high achievers from the everyday people.

Perhaps you’ve already seen someone create a big win in their life, only to grumble to yourself, I could have done that. Or perhaps you’ve watched as a co-worker launched a new project that included your ideas—only to conclude that you stood by while they took action.

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In the Neighborhood?


In the neighborhood?

The Practice:


Love your neighbor.

Why?

This practice might sound extreme or pushy, and I want to tell you what I mean by it.

Everyone has lots of neighbors, and they come in many shapes and sizes. Obviously the people living across the street are neighbors, but in some sense so are the people you live with. Friends, relatives, co-workers, all the people you know are neighbors. So are the people at the market or walking past on the street. Other living things are neighbors as well, such as cats and dogs, birds and bees, ants on the kitchen counter, and plants and trees.

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