How you are 'wired' to react to stress?

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Since we know that stress is an individual capacity, it is a response that varies from individual to individual, we also need to realize that this happens because people are "wired" to react differently to stress. Each one of us is secreting different levels of stress hormones like adrenalin and cortisol in the same situation. This tendency of secreting these special hormones can change from time to time.

If you are a person who is specially sensitive to stress, it is important for you to try consciously to maintain a low stress lifestyle.

Today I am going to address the problems of over sensitive individuals, whose stress response remains very high. It has been observed that highly stressed individuals seemingly need more food than others. Their requirements of carbohydrates is also much higher than others. They feel very low on energy if they are consuming lesser carbohydrates. These are people who are releasing high levels of cortisol in response to stress, than most other people.

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Managing your Stress Triggers

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Stress is a common factor amongst people from various walks of life. We cannot say for sure, which strata of society will be targeted most by this culprit. There are different types of stress and different types of people . Of course reactions to stress vary from person to person. Some people are more reactive to stress than others.

The body's stress response also varies from person to person. People have various triggers. The body is more responsive to a perceived stress trigger rather than an actual one. Some people may calm down easily, others could take a long time to settle down.

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In Times Of Crisis

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I just returned from lecturing at Tilton School, the NH school I attended as a student during my high school years and where my dad taught for nearly four decades. Being there now, talking with students and teachers, gave me a new perspective on the problems we face: climate change, US politics, international relations, gender issues, global poverty, and many more. I also was reminded that at Tilton I received an education that opened me to critical thinking, and I saw that the school continues to do that for students today.

Among the most important lessons I learned at Tilton that forever shaped my life: We humans have survived many crises; culture and history are changed by the written word – perception – more than by the gun and sword; and it is imperative for us always to explore the truths behind the “facts.”

As I wandered around campus this past week, I came upon a photograph of my dad outside his old classroom. The accompanying acknowledgement of his contributions to the school reminded me of his long view of history. I sat down in a nearby chair, opened my computer and wrote:

During troubled times, like the ones our country – our world – is experiencing, we may take comfort in the knowledge that we’ve staggered close to the brink before, and pulled back.



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Mindfulness and embracing your own reality

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Allowing ourselves to wallow in the past or the future is the favorite game of the human mind. This constant yo yo situation is a source of a new level of stress, beyond the existing stress level in your life. There are many ways our mind strategizes in order to manage the stress in our lives, yet at most times stress continues to nag at us.

This is like a warning to take charge of our lives and begin to focus on our lives in a more specific way. The important thing is for us to realize that it is imperative to live in the present moment.

POSITIVE CHANGE

This is only possible if we accept our present condition, understand it, realize its impact on our state of mind and our health, and also our power to be able to change this.


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Stop chasing illusions and find lasting happiness

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Happiness and virtue compliment each other, the happiest people have definitely conquered the art of living life in a de-stressed zone. Tranquility of the mind and happiness go hand in hand. It is only when we over commit ourselves to the external that we allow stress, a space to build itself up.


Humans of today have lost themselves to the external world. Meaningless values have gained priority over the true meaningful nuances of life. Chasing material things and living up to the neighbors way of life has become the accepted norm, and living in an anxiety ridden scenario is perhaps considered just "normal".

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Effective Stress Management to Help You Keep Mentally Strong, Emotionally Healthy

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Stress is unique to every individual. What could be stressing one person, could be completely non-stressful for someone else. This would also mean the strategies one uses as stress relievers for one person would not work with another. We need to understand the individual psyche of an individual to provide him with the correct guidelines as help.

 THE BEST GOAL

Since stress comes to us in various types, the ways of handling it would also vary accordingly. We need to have a clear distinction in our minds of the types of stress we are handling and find strategies to deal with it accordingly.

EUSTRESS OR POSITIVE STRESS


This type of stress actually leads to excitement and exhilaration in our lives. Life would be very dull if stress did not exist. So it is actually an essential ingredient in our lives.

 CHRONIC STRESS

In this case, the body remains in a constant ' fight or flight' response mode. The body is constantly triggered to get away from the situation. This needs to be dealt with since it affects the body in serious ways. It leads to diseases like diabetes, B.P. heart disease and many more. We need to see first what are the symptoms of stress and then see how they can be avoided and dealt with.
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Step onto a stress-free zone by developing this quality

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A frequently asked question by most of my clients is " Why am I stressing, my life seems so good to everyone else but myself". We need to understand that stress is a part of everyone's life, one way or the other.and beating stress seems to be one of our major daily concerns in order to lead a normal, healthy and happy life.

Having resilience towards stress is actually our best bet in life. In some of us, resilience is an inborn quality and yet some of us need to stretch the extra yard in order to cultivate it. Once we realize that we need to cultivate resilience, we need to make a conscious effort to do so.

Since we realize that we need to cultivate resilience, I will give you a few guidelines on how to develop this quality so that you step onto a stress-free zone most of the time and maintain a level of calm and balance in order to lead a life at the level of your ultimate potential.
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Tap your extreme potential and emerge a true winner

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Are you a procrastinator, are you constantly wondering how can you get rid of this crazy, lazy habit. Have you been constantly and deliberately putting things off because you are feeling too lazy for the moment, and then watching yourself observing your own behavior like another person objectively.

Some of us amazingly put our whole lives on hold due to this habit of ours, and no matter how frustrated we feel about our own attitude, we are not able to step away from it. I have noticed that with most procrastinators, tasks which are the closest to their hearts are kept for tackling last, as they are trying to fit in all the boring, cliched ones in their ' to do' list. They do not realize that somewhere at the back of their minds, stress has crept in. The more they think of their favorite task, the more they push it farther away thinking that it will be easily accomplished as they would like doing it. They feel the urgency to complete the boring tasks first. Stress levels keep mounting as time keeps passing by.
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9 Stress Relief Tips For Busy Lifestyles

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Running a business with events, speaking engagements, and meetings one right after the other on top of working with my team, I know first-hand how stressful and exhausting having a busy lifestyle can be. But I also know first-hand how to make sure you don’t burn out or find yourself helpless, irritable, and unhappy. Here are 9 of the best stress relief tips for when you find yourself extra busy. 

1. Eat Healthy and Exercise

It’s easy to want to jump out of bed and get right to work, skipping meals, grabbing fast food, and neglecting exercise when you live a busy lifestyle. But starting every day off right with healthy food, water and exercise is essential to success.

If you were going on a long trip in your high-performance car, would you fill it with the wrong kind of gas?

Of course not, it would be hard on the engine – remember your body is your engine, and it must come first.

Consider this…

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Laugh Your Way To Reduce Stress

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If you are taking life and yourself too seriously, you are guaranteeing a sure shot way to lead a stressful life.Life for everyone is filled with hassles, inconveniences and myriads of nonsensical nuances, which could be making you feel quite crazy. It is up to you to keep your attitude straight and not allow stress to be the winner of the game. Learn to diffuse most of the stress by keeping a positive attitude and looking at the humorous side of life.


LAUGH YOUR WAY TO REDUCE STRESS

Humor is considered the greatest stress reducer as it naturally reduces stress in the following ways:


1. RELAXES  YOUR BODY
The physical act of laughing reduces the physiological stress level while laughing. When you laugh your Blood Pressure drops, heart rate lowers and your brain releases endorphins that relax the mind.

2. ENHANCED IMMUNITY

Research has proved that laughter reduces stress hormones, increases production of disease resisting T cells and increases the chemical Interferon and consequently boosts the immune system.

3. LEARN TO LAUGH AT YOURSELF

This robs others of the satisfaction of trying to pull your leg.

4. GIVES YOU PERSPECTIVE

You view a stressful situation in a particular way and more objectively.You thereby reduce the stress experience.
In our daily lives we are constantly faced with situations that are causing stress. Keeping ourselves isolated does not help in any way. For as long as we are social beings, stress will accrue in our lives, in some form or the other.

HELPING OTHERS HELPS US

Doing something for others is a stress buffer. Small acts of kindness go a long way. We can evaluate our own helping hand in various ways


1. CONNECTS YOU

Helping others enhances your personal social support system, this in turn increases your level of connectivity.
 
2. KEEPS YOU BUSY

Stress mounts when you have time hanging on your hands. Being busy distracts you from your own worries . You can focus your attention on something more rewarding.

 3. GIVES A SENSE OF PURPOSE

You always feel better when you help. Makes you feel life is worthwhile and there is a sense of meaning, purpose and value.

4. INCREASES SENSE OF SELF WORTH

Self esteem is enhanced through helping others. There are lesser chances of feeling depressed. Allan Luke founder of Center for Non Profit Leadership at Fordham University found that commonly reported stress symptoms like a headache, arthritis pain and back pain were masked by the positive movement of the volunteers. Phyllis Moen a professor at Cornell University discovered that women who volunteered to help others were less depressed and more satisfied with their lives.


RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS

Some small randomly done acts go a long way in producing satisfying feelings for you as well as the people for whom those acts are performed and they are benefiting from these small gestures.

1. A kind word
2. A small helpful deed
3. A common act of courtesy

These could go a long way in giving joy.

A COSMIC DIMENSION

It is imperative for us to understand coming to grips with the unknown. It is only when we understand life from its true perspective do we truly de-stress. Thinking of a higher purpose always keeps us more steady.

FAITH


This is truly a great stress buffer. It enhances your ability to cope with life by providing the following:

1. PROVIDING A MEANING
What is life all about, this is a ethical question bothering all of us.

2. STRENGTHENS VALUES
Love and kindness need to be promoted. We need to condemn stress producing feelings like anger, hostility, aggression.

3.HOPE AND ACCEPTANCE
Helps us to encourage a feeling of optimism. A level of faithfulness.

4. FAITH UNITES
Helps in bringing people together by uniting them with a common happy focus.

HEALING POWER OF DOING GOOD

Most volunteering experiences have been proven to be highly stress management effective. Finding such experiences is very healing. We must exert to reach others so that you can find an area of work where you can find joy.

Stress for every individual is a unique experience and yet most of the causes are quite common.

Stretch yourself to heal others and feel the healing happen within you. .De stress others to de stress yourself.

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A very effective tool for stress relief

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We all have come to understand that feelings of anxiety can lead to stress. Over the years I have been helping my clients finding newer and more feasible tools for stress relief. Taking to more easier ways which would perhaps be more coherent and conducive to our modern day environment. Here as a writer I strongly recommend journaling as one of the most effective tools for stress management.

The most important need for us humans is to express ourselves and also to be understood. We need to realize that we first need to understand our own selves. The best way I feel we can do it is by putting all our thoughts on paper. Let's get started by stating the following ways

WHAT IS JOURNALING

As a way to manage stress, journaling needs to be done constantly. By this, I mean, writing every day, your feelings and emotions. The mere expression on paper gives a sense of relief and helps you to rid yourself of your budding anxiety.

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It’s That Time Again…Tips to Embrace Mercury Retrograde

sao-miguel-island-azores-picture-id922980996 Yup, it is that time again! By now, you have probably heard someone say … “Oh, It’s Mercury retrograde”.

Mercury Retrograde is about to begin and many people are beginning to “feel” the energy shifts … possibly without even knowing it … as it moves in. Now, I’m not an expert in Mercury Retrograde … nor am I an astrologer. I’m a psychic medium and someone who is sensitive to energy … just like you. I notice when the energy shifts … especially the strong shifts. As I tune into the energy (and look at the calendar) I usually discover that Mercury is retrograde … and I take a breath, look up how long it wilbreatl be in retrograde … and then plan to move forward at a slower pace … knowing that it always has something to teach me. Not that I always love this … but, I can either hit my head against the wall, pushing and forcing OR go with the flow of Mercury in retrograde … and embrace it’s teachings. Which do you choose?

What is Mercury Retrograde?

Usually, three or sometimes four times a year, the planet Mercury appears to be moving backwards in the sky for a period of approximately 3 weeks. Technically, planets don’t actually move backwards … they don’t even slow down, but as Mercury passes the earth in its orbit … it appears to slow down, stop (station) and spin backward (retrograde). Of course, it really isn’t moving backward … it’s an optical illusion, since there is forward movement, like speeding by a slow-moving train — as it recedes, it appears to go backward. In astrology, Mercury rules communication, travel, and technology—so all of these areas can feel out of control during these three weeks.

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The relationship between stress and our physical health

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There exists an absolutely indefinable relationship between stress and our physical health. Of course we always say that a ''healthy body is a healthy mind'' and vice versa, but today's rampant situation of stress which is mainly considered a mind issue, needs to be addressed maybe more on the physical aspect as well. In other words I'm actually trying to promote physical exercise.

Most people who are health fanatics and exercise freaks swear by their fitness regime as the ultimate stress reliever. I somehow being the lazy creature that I am, have almost grudgingly started agreeing with them. Watching this increasing focus on the importance of exercise, my own perceptions of its importance have changed. This is not only because I started enjoying my own personal fitness routine, but it has also given me a chance to research on the various benefits of exercise as a conscious stress reliever.

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The Reasons We Procrastinate and How To Beat It

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Procrastination is an age old habit with most of us. We love to tell ourselves that we will put it off until the very last minute, but when this is really not possible anymore we begin to get into panic mode and rush to complete our task before the deadline situation.

Many a time we tell ourselves ''I'll just do it later as there is plenty of time.'' Before we know it time has flown past and we are pretty much faced with the reality of our incomplete task looming large in our face.

WHY DO WE PROCRASTINATE

Procrastination is actually a way our mind finds of coping with emotions we cannot deal with. They could almost be symptoms that accompany depression. It brings temporary relief because it is an easy habit to fall into as a panic mode. Our coping mechanism makes us avoid reality. But as we learn to avoid performing on time, and languish around, panic and depression begin to loom larger. Research says, that mostly students tend to procrastinate, as they have many deadlines to cope with.

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12 steps to lead you up the path to successful joyful living

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In our fast growing world stress is playing rampant. So much is happening i guess. People i feel are thematically geared towards success. Yet what we define as success is so personal in our own real world.


Everyone in the world is looking for success from his own personal perspective. Normally success is gauged from a material perspective. Money is an important gauge for the average man. Monetary success seems imperative. Someone with a fancy car, a beautiful home, and a super fantastic lifestyle would be termed as a successful person. Professional accomplishments seem to be a regular gauge too.


All these are very important ingredients of life but of utmost importance is our own personal scale, the real judging factor is our own '' feeling successful factor''

Being fulfilled, happy, safe, healthy and loved is vital. The less tangible emotional self at play is what truly counts and determines our success.

In today’s world of ''Conscious Living'' and ''Higher Awareness'' the true gauge of success is being in a state of inner balance and a semblance of being firmly grounded in the ''here and now'' of the material world.

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Reducing Stress with Mindful Eating

Reducing Stress with Mindful Eating Reducing Stress with Mindful Eating

Our stress levels and our moods keep changing all the time. We feel that we can alter our moods by eating what we enjoy, mainly a craving for sweets settles in whenever we are upset or feeling stressed. You indulge in sweets and feel immediately satisfied, but this could also be followed by  a bout of irritability experienced due to a sugar crash following the binging.

 
Research in recent years tells us that just as eating certain foods have a certain impact on our moods , we need to monitor our food intake very carefully as this impacts our stress levels in a very major way. 
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Different Ways To Reduce Stress

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Since stress seems to come from so many avenues, so does stress relief. There are so many ways to handle it. Most people believe in a certain particular and personal favorite strategy for stress relief, but in my opinion the most efficient way would be to create an overall effective plan that includes many different ways of reducing stress instead of a particular favorite and suitable plan that would deal with stress from one's own individual angle.

 
CLEAR THINKING STRATEGY
 
Bringing clarity to the mind is by far the most important way to eliminate stress. When the thinking is clear in our heads it is only then that we can take the most sensible and beneficial decisions for ourselves. So keeping the mind uncluttered and clear is our best bet in life.
 
REVERSE THE STRESS RESPONSE
 
If you are familiar with the concept of reversing the stress response you start thinking more clearly and you can actually avoid the negative effects of chronic stress. 
 
Mastering stress is an art that can be learnt. Being a master craftsman at this art is what is your real key to leading a beautiful life. Being a mastercraftsman at this one is your key to leading a beautiful life.
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Surrender = Doing Your Part & Get Out Of The Universes’ Way

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Sometimes no matter how much you want something, you must let go and surrender it to a Higher Power. In fact releasing attachment is key to the co-creation process.

 

You may be thinking, “But Colette, what if I really really want it with all my heart?” Maybe you’re in a relationship that you really want to work, but things just haven’t come together. Or perhaps you’ve been pursuing a career path that you’re determined is best for you, yet it’s not moving forward. It may even be that your efforts to change or avoid a difficult situation aren’t working.

 

Most of us have had the experience of wanting something so badly, we’d do almost anything to have it or make it happen. Determination is after all one of the most important keys to success in any area of your life. Yet, what happens when you keep trying to make something happen but it’s just not falling into place? Could it be you’re holding on to it too tightly?

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Stress Busters for Family Summer Holiday Season

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We are in the midst of the summer holiday season now. We normally think that this season would mean saying goodbye to stress, but is it really so? We mostly equate holidays with fun activities, partying and generally doing nothing in particular which is stressful. But frankly holiday stress in itself is a whole package deal.

WHAT IS HOLIDAY (VACATION) STRESS?

There have been surveys which have given us statistics to say that holiday stress is carried by around 80 percent people.  People find it as stressful as asking for a raise.

 

POSITIVE STRESS

Of course this stress is categorized as positive stress yet nevertheless it can be a very stressful condition due to the following factors .

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Short Term Stress Relievers for Instant Relief

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Alleviating stress is something we are looking for at all ages and stages of life. When stress is acute it throws us off balance momentarily, that is why the alarm bells ring and we look for quick fixes.

Acute stress doesn't last too long. It is triggered by unexpected situations which hit you like a jolt,shake you up a bit as you are not adequately prepared to handle it. Slow and long term progressive stress has a steadily rising positive impact but here it is instant.


Your body's stress response is also instant but can be reversed with quick relaxation techniques. These short term stress relievers give you instant relief from your extreme situation and help you get back to your day feeling less stressed and more relaxed. 
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