Is your negative self talk turning into a Self Fulfilling Prophecy?
We all have a habit of self talk, and it is this habit which makes us perceive things as less stressful or more stressful. If we tell ourselves that something is difficult, it actually starts seeming so And eventually becomes so, but if we tell ourselves that something is easy and enjoyable, that is what we begin to attract into our lives. So we can understand that by using self talk that is optimistic rather than pessimistic, has very many benefits as far as stress management is concerned. That directly affects our behavior and subsequently our productivity and our health.
Most people have a way if living in their own fortress. They will give themselves the negative message, that they can't do something. Then the belief seems to somehow fit itself into that mode, and you stop looking for a solution.
POSITIVE SELF TALK
You need to stop negative self talk, which could turn into a self fulfilling prophecy. Tell yourself that you can do a certain thing. Do not be in a space of vagueness, a "maybe" sort of mindset. Be positive and sure of yourself, and you will actually create a self fulfilling prophecy.
Habitually creating positive internal dialogue will actually empower you.
Try to stay in a positive mode by facilitating yourself in the following ways:
1. Become aware of your problem of negative thinking.
2. Accept it's huge impact on your life and it's power over you.
3. Journaling helps. Putting thoughts on paper is a release. Writing about your feelings gets you rid of suppressed emotions, which is essential.
4. Thought stopping, which entails the fact, that the moment the mind is getting into a negative state, in the middle of your negative thought you can say "stop" saying this consciously makes you more aware, and actually rid of the scenario.
REPLACE NEGATIVE STATEMENTS
A great way to replace pessimistic thoughts, is by replacing them with positive ones. You can actually quickly mentally, rethink your assumptions. Stop your negative flow of thought. Think with clarity and immediately replace it. Do not consider that you are up against a challenge. Just rethink and replace with a positive thought.
USE MILDER WORDS
Sometimes people use very strong negative words to describe a certain situation within themselves. Try using milder words.Turning the more powerful negative words to milder ones, which could express the same sentiment, but in a milder and more neutral fashion. For example, instead of saying "I hate it" say "I don't like it" This makes the emotional impact much lighter.
USE POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
The mind is actually like s human computer. Works with programming. If you give it powerful positive messages, you are actually creating a positive program within your brain. You should just go ahead and do it. It will just keep happening on its own.
It might seem like an uphill task to change your negative mind set into a positive one and reprogram your entire life.
We are all basically so well settled into our mental and emotional comfort zones, that even if they are actually abusive to ourselves, we do not accept it. The human mind is so used to addictive patterning, that, no matter how hard we are trying to break this field, it keeps recurring. The good news is that it is all within our own means.
Do a little work on yourselves. Turn around your negative thoughts to positive ones, and turn your life into a beautiful, happy and joyous journey.