Loving parts of a personality are naturally generous, kind, and connected. When you align yourself with yours, you become generous, kind, and connected, too. This is the creation of authentic power.
I was thrilled when Linda and I were invited to a gathering in India. I was even more thrilled to be asked to give a talk at the Gandhi ashram. Gandhi is one of my heroes. I spoke about authentic power and, for the first time, I spoke of the Universal Human, which I have been writing a book about for thirty years. Gandhi’s ashram seemed the perfect place to introduce the Universal Human because I think of Gandhi as a Universal Human when few existed.
Hello Dear Friends, Cultural Creatives & Seekers Everywhere,
The video in this article is a rerun from a previous article. Why play it again? The message is even more relevant today.
Over the past several weeks, the public was offered a momentary break from the never-ending onslaught of news of a world in chaos and upheaval. Global attention was temporarily focused on the exploits of gazillionaires Jeff Besos, Richard Branson, and Elon Musk. Each of these individuals, representatives of the top 1% of the top 1% of the world’s wealthy, have invested their riches in creating their own space-flight companies. To demonstrate for the public their trust in their own efforts, Besos and Branson strapped themselves into rockets and blasted-off into space.
For many of us, the fifteen months of lockdown and restricted activities were extremely challenging in every area of life. As life began to open up again in recent months, we experienced hope and optimism that normalcy was on the return.
Most of us started getting out more, giddy to be social and hug our friends and loved ones that we haven’t seen beyond a Zoom screen for so long.
And some of us have even jumped on a plane and done some traveling.
Plans that couldn’t be made previously (whether career or personal) are popping up and you may be feeling like it’s time to dive back in, make a new list of goals and accomplishments, restart your life and go for it.
Except your previous “get up and go” is now stalling, procrastinating, overthinking, worrying or all of the above.
Who do you need to become in order to have the life you’ve always dreamed of?
Making the life of your dreams a reality will require your commitment. It will ask you to claim that life and the version of you who lives it in advance – before you see the evidence with your eyes. It will require you to consistently invest in yourself and your transformation.
This isn’t about becoming something you aren’t or living a life that wasn’t meant for you. Instead, it’s about becoming the person you were always meant to be and claiming the life that’s been waiting for you.
Dig deep. But dig with a spoon, not a shovel.
I've Been Thinking...
“OMG, your past is speaking to you. What a validation of your truth!”
That’s what my friend Nadine said after reading my column in The Sunday Paper last week. In it, I wrote about the concept of leaving and about my parting words with Winnie, a woman who cared for my brothers as we were growing up.
"You knew your truth all along,” Nadine continued. “You knew what it was, and yet you didn’t believe yourself. You sought outside validation. Perhaps now you will trust yourself!”
After decades spent ignoring the whole issue of consciousness, recent years have seen a boom, or at least a boomlet, of scientific interest. So it wasn’t entirely a breakthrough when the July 10 issue of the popular weekly New Scientist devoted its cover article to consciousness, posing “the ten biggest questions about the greatest mystery in the universe.”
The headline is meant to be provocative, but the vast majority of scientists won’t be interested in consciousness, and their indifference can be simply explained. When conducting an experiment in the laboratory, the air in the room is irrelevant (unless you are experimenting on air). Likewise, consciousness is just as irrelevant. Like air, it is necessary, but it is beside the point. Air and consciousness are just a given.
Ironically, this dismissal actually holds the answer to all ten questions posed by the New Scientist article. First let me relate the ten question, which don’t have to be considered in detail, since one answer applies to all ten.
As events occur in our lives, it seems we always know exactly what they mean for us. Then immediately we rush into what feels like the appropriate emotional reaction.That reaction further influences the way we view the event, and in this way our initial response is “confirmed.” We rarely question either our view of events or our response to them.
As we are carried away unconsciously from one automatic reaction to another, these conditioned responses grow more entrenched. And with each repetition, they feel more and more natural to us.The likelihood that we will ever question them diminishes. Our behavior grows more settled into these mechanical responses and the way we view events becomes increasingly rigid. As a result, we are taken further away from the spontaneous lives we were meant to enjoy.
But it’s not necessary to continue being defeated by our own mechanical responses. We can learn to recognize these “dark horse reactions” eager to take us on a bad ride, before we are carried away by them.
As much as money affords opportunity, I believe that you can turn the money you have right now and get started creating your own opportunity. Dreaming and pursuing those dreams shouldn’t be reserved just for the wealthy. You’re not rich? That’s okay. I wasn’t either when I decided to open my own financial business. You just need to be practical and smart with where you invest your time and how you save, spend and invest your money.
Find the root of your dream
We all go through those moments when we feel like giving up.
Whether you are facing a tough time in your relationship, struggling financially, or facing repeated failures in the pursuit of your dream…. Life can be challenging at times.
But anything worthwhile takes patience, perseverance, and effort. If it was easy everyone would be doing it. On the path of greatness, everyone is invited, but only a rare few have the courage and dedication to stay the full course.
If you are going through tough times right now, remember that it is a season, and no season lasts forever. Even your most difficult time will pass.
What would make a difference inside you?
Grow Inner Strengths.
I’ve hiked a lot and have often had to depend on what was in my pack. Inner strengths are the supplies you’ve got in your pack as you make your way down the twisting and often hard road of life. They include a positive mood, common sense, integrity, inner peace, determination, and a warm heart. Researchers have identified other strengths as well, such as self-compassion, secure attachment, emotional intelligence, learned optimism, the relaxation response, self-esteem, distress tolerance, self-regulation, resilience, and executive functions. I’m using the word strength broadly to include positive feelings such as calm, contentment, and caring, as well as skills, useful perspectives and inclinations, and embodied qualities such as vitality or relaxation. Unlike fleeting mental states, inner strengths are stable traits, an enduring source of well-being, wise and effective action, and contributions to others.
After investing the last 45+ years in studying, applying and mentoring tens of thousands of others in transformational principles, a question I’ve often received from some of the people I work with is:
“Mary, I’m dealing with a challenge in my life right now, and I just can’t seem to break free and move forward! What should I do?”
Here’s what I tell them:
“Every challenging situation you or I may ever face has a silver lining attached to it, even if we can’t see it right away.”
The secret to seeing the benefit within every struggle is to shift our mindsets about the perceived challenge we’re facing.
When we feel stuck or challenged, it can be so easy to adopt a fixed mindset – one of fear, worry, doubt, anger or resignation.
This is perfectly natural, but in truth, moving away from a fixed mindset and towards a growth mindset is the key to getting unstuck, moving forward, and unlocking new and better opportunities for yourself and your life!
In 2018, I took a beautiful group of souls to Thailand for a trip of a lifetime. Twenty-seven of us spent two weeks in this amazing country – on the beach (Phuket), in the city (Bangkok), and in the mountains (Chang Mai). The trip truly was one of the best experiences of my life and I’ve heard from several of our group that it was theirs as well.
While there, we learned that depending on the day you were born, you had a particular buddha pose that was just for you. (Well, you and the millions born on that day 🙂 My mom had told me that I was born on a Wednesday, but when I tuned into the Wednesday buddha, it didn’t feel right. Once I Googled it, I discovered I was born on a Tuesday. My buddha is the “Realizing Nirvana” – Pang Sai Yat – otherwise known as the lying buddha. We all had such a great time connecting with our buddhas that I thought I’d share with you the summary list below.
Which buddha is yours?
I've Been Thinking...
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about leaving. I don’t mean leaving on vacation (although I am looking forward to my annual August break). I’ve actually been thinking more deeply and broadly about the different ways we all leave a piece of ourselves behind each and every day.
We leave jobs or careers that no longer bring us joy. We leave relationships that don’t work for us anymore. We leave religious or political affiliations that no longer stand for what we believe. This week, under President Biden’s direction, the U.S. announced plans to leave Afghanistan. Former President Bush said it was a mistake, but Biden said it was the right move. Meanwhile, Texas legislators dramatically up and left the state capitol while the legislature was in session to protest voting rights suppression.
On the journey to self-actualization and becoming your highest self, there may come a point where you stop and wonder, “How do I know when I’ve found myself?”
It’s easy to get stuck in this way of thinking – the idea that your spiritual journey has an endpoint. That you aren’t your true, authentic self until one day, everything changes and you finally “arrive.” Instead, what you’ll most likely discover is that you will find yourself over and over again along the way. Finding yourself is more of a gradual unfolding or an organic blossoming than reaching a destination.
There are these moments though, where you’ll discover a little bit more about yourself. Where you know more about life or you have more self compassion. Where you see yourself and your life through a new lens. And each of these is another point on the evolution of your blossoming.
As you grow and transform, new parts of you are revealed.
Life is nothing but a series of choices, and if you make good choices, your life will improve. That’s a brief, rational statement that everyone lives by, since the opposite—improving your life by making bad choices—isn’t much of a plan. Making good choices should bring the good things in life—but what if it doesn’t?
This is actually one of the most profound questions posed over the centuries. The obstacles to achieving a good life turn out to be powerful. They include
- Catastrophic accidents
- Serious disease
- Destructive mass events: war, famine, plague
- Forces of nature: climate change, earthquakes, storms, fire, floods
- Economic failures and reversals
- Political upheaval
- Prejudice and intolerance
- Psychological problems like anxiety and depression
- Old wounds, traumas, and humiliations from the past
It isn’t this world that threatens or disturbs us. We are dominated by our own thoughts and feelings. We are taken over by our own reactions. This is painful for us because our original nature, our True Self, longs to be free and unencumbered by self-limiting, self-defeating, compulsive thoughts and feelings.
The problem is, at our present level, we believe that another person or event is causing our unhappy feelings. We want power over them in the hope that it will give us power over our punishing feelings. Can you see that this approach to self-command is doomed from its ill-conceived beginning?
So where do we look for the power we need to be happy?
Ask any highly successful person how they maintain their motivation and focus to achieve their ambitious goals, and chances are their answer will be, “daily affirmations!”
I have met countless successful business people, Olympic and professional athletes, NY Times bestselling authors, and visionary changemakers who all use daily positive affirmations to stay energized and focused on their goals, no matter what’s happening in the world around them. They have all told me that their daily affirmations practice has had a game-changing impact on their lives.
Today I’d like to teach you how daily affirmations for success actually work and show you how to write affirmations that will make it so much easier for you to achieve your life goals.
I’ll also answer common questions such as:
“What is a daily affirmation?”
“Are morning affirmations better than evening affirmations?”
“How to write affirmations that work?”
… and so much more!
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