It's easy to forget that we are all perfect in our own design. Sometimes we muck it up with habits and choices that do not serve us. 

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Conflict Resolution: When to Talk, When to Disengage

In my work with couples, I am often asked, "Shouldn't I communicate with my partner about this? Shouldn't we talk this over?"

For example, Ginger told me that when her husband, Ron, became demanding sexually or started to complain about not having enough sex, she was sexually turned off. She would become defensive, explaining her feelings to Ron repeatedly, in hopes of getting him to stop. She hoped that if she explained herself enough, he would understand that his demanding and complaining turned her off. Sometimes Ginger thought there was something wrong with her sexually when she was not turned on, and other times she thought that if only Ron would stop demanding and complaining, everything would be okay. Yet nothing changed. No amount of talking or explaining helped.

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Feeling Your Feelings

Today I thought we would talk about feelings … your feelings. Ooh, not a popular subject for many people.

Who wants to feel their feelings?
Do you struggle with allowing yourself to feel your feelings?
Do you know that you’ve got a compartment sitting over there full of feelings that you don’t let come through?

So, let’s talk about that. When you think about feeling your feelings, what comes up for you? What do you recognize? What button gets pushed? What trigger shows up when you think about feeling your feelings?

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7 Tools For Getting Into Flow!

Living in a state of Flow means letting the current of life take you. 

There’s something incredibly beautiful about this experience – living in surrender to the flow of life, allowing expansion to overcome you, being grounded without being rigid. 

And yet, flow isn’t always our natural tendency. It’s actually something we have to cultivate. With all of the uncertainty in the world, our instincts can tell us that we need to “hold onto the branch.” We’re afraid of being swept away, of losing control – so we contract. 

We begin grasping to control. We look for ways to force certainty as a response to the uncertainty of life. But the irony is that the more we hold on, the more we grasp and control, the more we keep going in a loop.

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It’s Never An Accident When You Show Up

Your life begins to give you signals that something in your reality isn’t quite working. Your life begins to prompt you to begin to look a little bit deeper. For some of you it looks like a crisis, for others of you it looks like unprecedented success. Either way, life throws you into that which is uncomfortable so that you can get to know who you are beyond the neatly defined boundaries or edges that you have come to know as yourself. 

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Solving The Mystery Of “I”

If you have ever sat down and seriously asked, “Who am I?” you’ve done something few people ever get around to. To seriously ask the question implies that you don’t already know the answer, and everyone does—or thinks they do. We use the word “I” all the time without finding any mystery to it. ‘I” is the identity that points to you, the individual. ‘I” is the skin-enclosed ego in the body you see in the mirror. “I” is the separate mind that makes you uniquely different from all the other people who walk around with their own version of “I.”

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The Last Hurrah of the Past

Life is getting better everyday. 

Sometimes you have the tendency to see what you want to see instead of seeing the truth or you come up with an interpretation rather than being with the truth. It’s important to get to a place and to have the courage to be honest with yourself about what that truth is. 

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Is Your Mind on Overdrive?

The mind can be a useful assistant, helping you to organize your life and complete tasks. It can also be a nag, constantly bothering you with worries and reminders. If not balanced with the calming energy of the heart or the breath, the mind can run amuck, always on high alert, looking for lists to make and problems to solve. Caffeine, in the form of coffee or tea, can exacerbate this. Meditation and deep slow breathing are helpful for slowing the mind down. This takes consistent practice, however. Meditators sometimes struggle to control their thinking instead of allowing thoughts to just pass through and disappear into emptiness. The mind can rebel by frantically running a commentary something like this: “What are you doing?! Stand up! Close the window. Take your vitamins. Make a grocery list. Do the laundry. Don’t just sit there!” Often lists will start forming in your head, and the mind will urge you to write them down immediately lest you forget. It requires an ongoing commitment to peace in order to relax your mind into accepting slow, quiet breathing and empty mental space. Being instead of doing.

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A Storehouse for the Unconscious Mind

In our pivot into the present moment, and letting go of emotions with everything at the level of the mind, thoughts, feelings and everything in the body related to the present, the primary place where everything is still residing is in the body. 

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Listen to Your Heart

“Listen to your heart. Follow your path. May it be clear, and for the good of all.” —Kumu Sabra Kauka


I've Been Thinking...

As I was watching the news the other night, I listened as the anchors discussed the court appearance of the Highland Park mass murderer. They said he was “completely unfazed“ when he appeared to hear the charges. I paused, took a breath, and thought to myself, “Wow, how can anyone be 'unfazed' these days, much less someone who decided to murder innocent people at a July 4th parade?”

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Choose to Embrace the Miracle of Discovery

The only thing that really troubles us is that our attention doesn't belong to us. Presently, something calls for us and claims our attention. Every errant thought and feeling that passes through our psychic system commands that we attend to what it tells us to.  We are made captive to whatever our negative attention has clung to.

Our work, in terms of reclaiming our right to be in relationship with what we choose, begins with being able to see that we suffer because choices are made for us by this unconscious thought nature.  This is unnecessary suffering. The mind has produced commentary on the moment, and then has an automated response to the messaging that makes us miserable.

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Start Your Day Over

It was abundantly clear how passionate he was about a personal growth seminar he attended many years ago. Every time I inquired about it, he remembered some fantastic experience or insight. Many of them made sense to me intuitively and logically, and many had been experiences I could relate to in my own way.

One specific experience stood out hands-and-feet above the rest though…

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Awaken to the World that Drags You Down

Long before it’s possible for us to be spiritually reborn, we must first awaken to ourselves.

Awakening is the sudden realization that somehow or other what I took to be the only world isn’t the only world..

But in a true awakening, I recognize that there’s a world beneath me. And the way I know there’s a world beneath me is that I can feel something pulling on me. Something wants to drag me down into depression. Something wants to pull me into anger. Something wants to move me into a state of myself where I can justify my agitation. Then, as I start to get irritated, angry, impatient, something else says, “Uh-uh. And it isn’t some moral platitude that’s been pressed into my brain. It’s an actual understanding that, “This hurts and I don’t want to act from it!”

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Stabilizing Your State Of Being

We are now moving to a point in our evolution where we need to be consistent in our state of being no matter who you are, or who you are with or what you are doing or what’s happening.  Recognize that you are the one that is denying yourself the experience you wish to have and that you are allowing other people, or what’s happening in the world or what’s happening in your life to do that. 

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Choices

Let’s talk about choices today … Being able to make choices … you have a right to choices … creating choices … how to find that truth within yourself to make the choice that is for your best and highest good.

So, all things, CHOICES 🙂

Here’s my question to just start this off … Have you ever felt in your life like you didn’t have a choice? Like literally, you have no choice. Have you felt that way in your life?

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Life is Falling Apart

Does it seem that more than ever things are becoming difficult? Are you facing unexpected losses, setbacks, and challenges that come out of nowhere, even if you have been diligently working on your inner growth? Don’t fall into blame or frustration if you are going through difficult times. There is a reason for these challenges, and it is not what you think. These unexpected challenges you are now facing now may not be setbacks at all, but rather are showing up to move you quickly toward that which will bring genuine healing, peace, and true inner satisfaction in the long run.

How to Develop Real Self-Confidence

"Confidence is your being, it is what you are."


On today’s episode of SoulTalk, I share skills on How to Develop Real Self-Confidence. Something we have been conditioned to seek outside of ourselves through external validation. But this is a dead end path.

Listen to a refreshing perspective on how to develop authentic self-confidence that comes from connecting with the deeper dimension of your being.

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See the Person Behind the Eyes

Who is behind the mask?

The Practice:
See the person behind the eyes.

Why?

Most of us wear a kind of mask, a persona that hides our deepest thoughts and feelings, and presents a polished, controlled face to the world.

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Trains, Planes & Soul Guidance

As the passage mentioned: “Like a passenger riding a train, you have the choice to get on and off, find new routes, pick new places to visit, or just stop and enjoy the view for a while. Perhaps, you like to move quickly through life as if you were an express train. Or maybe, like a commuter passenger, you like taking the same routes over and over again. You may even stop just riding along and choose a different direction you’d like your life to take.”

Sometimes there are so many choices on our plates that we get caught up in the chaos and let stress and anxiety take over.  Which route is best for me? Which way do I turn? How far do I go? Which stop will get me to where I want to be? Will I be satisfied going this way or that? Before we know it, we get stuck in one spot and we’re afraid to move forward. It’s like watching the confusing timetable of endless trains or planes coming and going here, there and everywhere, and we’d rather sit in the terminal and hide our heads!

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What is Self Discipline? 7 Ways to Develop It

Do you know what sets highly successful people apart from the people who never achieve their goals in life? 

Successful people are clear on what they want and take unstoppable action toward their dreams. They don’t let setbacks, distractions, or challenges derail their progress. When an obstacle appears on their path, they figure out a way to dissolve it, get around it, and never give up until they reach their intended destination. 

And that, my friend, takes self-discipline. 

Today I’m going to share my top tips on how to build self-discipline and cultivate the unstoppable persistence and resilience you need to achieve ambitious goals. 

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Getting Through Difficulties With A Positive Attitude

No one said life would be easy. We all go through difficult times, and how we handle these challenging situations determines our character and, ultimately, our happiness. Having a positive attitude during difficult times is essential because things can only get worse if we don't. With a positive attitude, you can find the silver lining in every cloud and stay hopeful through even the roughest patches of your life.

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Weekday Personal Support

Join Panache Desai each weekday morning for support in reconnecting to the wellspring of calm and peace that lives within you and that has the power to counterbalance all of the fear, panic, and uncertainty that currently engulfs the world.

Designed To Move You From Survival and Fear to Safety and Peace. Available Monday - Friday. Meditation begins at 9 AM.  Access early to hear Panache's monologue -  around 8:30 AM. 

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