Obsessing over thought - Rumination
When we start getting obsessed with our own negative thoughts and brooding over them, when we simply can't free ourselves from our nagging and repeated thinking, when we are trying very hard in our minds, to sort situations, we call it Rumination.
This is really a basic human tendency, I mean obsessing over a particular thought, but as it begins to overwhelm us, it turns into stress. SENSE OF POWER
On the negative side of rumination, we understand the power struggle of the human mind. It is basically a constant repetition of negative thinking patterns which take over. When you are experiencing the feeling of a situation, which you perhaps experienced a day earlier, maybe someone said something to hurt you, and you continue to carry that hurt in your mind constantly, you keep repeating that thought within you and actually magnify that whole situation and that hurtful feeling so much, that it simply overtakes your whole life. You then start rollicking in stress.
Sometimes you could be sitting with friends, talking of your situation, you replay the whole event, dwell on the injustice of it and create more stress, worrying about whether your response was adequate or not.
This an easy mode to slip into, as we are basically repeating thoughts and scenarios, over and over again in our minds, in order to get over them. We seem to feel that by repeatedly thinking and understanding our difficulties, we can solve the problem. But instead we blow them larger than life.
REFLECTING AND BROODING
The reflecting part of rumination is actually helpful. Rehashing the situation, sometimes brings more stress. It is of course important, that once you have assessed, these situations, you need to have a corresponding action to rectify them
BE A SERENITY SEEKER
Most people obviously do not want to ruminate over their problems. Every one of us is seeking happiness. Normally we can't let go of a thought where we have felt insulted. Then we are trying to seek validation, or make sense of it in our own minds.
WHY DO WE RUMINATE
It is important to understand why we ruminate. It is actually the attempt and effort of our minds, to understand a frustrating situation and move on from it.
It is important to catch rumination before it catches up with you, so that you do not get into the spiral of negative thinking and stressing.
It is a sweetness, you don't want to deny yourself. There is a certain kind of joy in ruminating. Keeps your attention occupied. It is important that you catch it, before it catches up with you. It can divide your attention and lead to a lot of negative effects.
NEGATIVE ATTITUDES GENERATED
There is a whole new set of problems, which come up with a negative state of mind.Of course negative is unpleasant in itself, but it also enhances a whole lot of consequences, which would be best avoided.
This is one of the health issues triggered by rumination. So seeking relief from rumination is very important.
This is a great stress relief measure. Being in the present moment, being non judgemental, not worrying about the past or the future, helps in combating rumination. Living in the "Now" is essential.
We may have many negative self coping behaviours, like binge eating, over indulgence in alcohol etc, these are destructive attitudes and need to be dealt with.
Once we have understood, why we ruminate, it becomes easy to handle this malfunctioning behaviour.
KEEP AN OPEN MIND
Be forgiving and learn the art of letting go. Try having empathy towards the person who hassled you. Maybe it will help you to see his perspective. And you will then be more loving and understanding towards your own self.
Instead of being constantly critical towards the situation, try and be objective. Try finding a solution and not keep viewing your own hurt.
DO NOT PLAY VICTIM
Step away from the victim mode. Study yourself. Learn a little more about yourself in order to be able to rectify it properly.
CHANGE THOUGHT PATTERNS
This is imperative. This will change your entire experience of stress. Slowly, as you transform, everything in your life will change, including your habit of obsessing.
Help yourself by being objective and loving yourself enough.